Being rejected on purpose?

boofXANAXeveryday · 2019-07-06T16:58:14+00:00

Don't need to do it on purpose, you will get rejected often enough doing cold approaches, even if you try to do you your best

caesarfecit · 2019-07-06T22:19:57+00:00

If you set yourself up to fail, it's not a real rejection.

GuerrillerodeFark · 2019-07-06T16:27:11+00:00

Yes. Read the game

lesntoomy · 2019-07-06T17:21:42+00:00

Daygame is well noted for tons of rejections. Each one makes you stronger. Some will be successful though and it makes it all worth it.

dreamingplays · 2019-07-06T23:06:30+00:00

I’d argue that it is an essential component for reducing approach anxiety. Clinical research on exposure therapy shows that there are two major components to successfully reduce the social phobia of a patient. The first component focuses on the irrational probability of embarrassment, while the second focuses on the irrational cost of embarrassment.

Let’s use a guy who’s afraid of talking to girl as an example.

Component 1: “I’m gonna fuck this up.”

Often times, a guy is scared of talking to girls because he thinks he will say or do something foolish. To extinguish this fear, he should continuously speak to girls over and over again. This shows him that, for the most part, he performs competently and his fear of “screwing up” is irrational and unlikely to happen to the extent he thinks.

Component 2: “I cannot handle being rejected or looking foolish.”:

The second component of the fear of talking to her is that the COST or EMBARRASSMENT of being rejected or doing something stupid is too difficult to handle. To extinguish this fear, he should do stupid things or get rejected ON PURPOSE. Why? Because he will realize that the cost of being rejected is actually transient and completely bearable. While initially he thought it would be the worst thing in the world, after it occurs it is nothing but a slight feeling of discomfort. Over time the fear of this rejection or embarrassment “cost” slowly diminishes.

Focusing on both these components is necessary for fear extinction of social phobias. If you only focus on component 1 you will be able to go up and talk to girls but you will not speak boldly as you still fear the cost of rejection too much.

BenzDriverS · 2019-07-06T19:31:27+00:00

This is what a weak man with no confidence does.

Title	Being rejected on purpose?
Author	jikol1906
Upvotes	8
Comments	6
Date	July 6, 2019 4:00 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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