I am 16 and I always feel lost. I think I’m good looking but it’s just that I have no Idea how to escalate an conversation

StarwarsITALY · 2019-07-07T01:49:42+00:00

Jesus kid no one is laughing. We are all on here to better understand this crazy little thing called love.

Ask yourself what’s the difference between day game and night game?

What kind of game do you think every guy is running on the 10 as she goes about her day? It's indirect game. Because the guy at the convenience store, the grocery store, the guy serving her McDonalds, the guy asking her for the time, the guy asking her for directions, the guy making small talk on the bus, the bus driver, they’re all fucking geniuses who’ve figured out a way to talk to her without risking rejection. A confident guy who basically says flat out “hey, you’re hot. I deserve you. Now show me why you’re worth my time beyond your looks.” is refreshingly honest to a woman.

Why? Because all the indirect guys are full of shit, pretending not to want her. The direct guy is congruent and acting in line with his desires. He’s confident enough to risk rejection but he expects NOT to be rejected. That’s the kind of guy who’s secure and confident enough to handle dating a 10.

That said, I like indirect game for the day time. Why? Because it ends up in the same place as direct game when you do it right. Most guys doing indirect game suck ass. They ask for directions then talk about stupid shit for 20 minutes and then make a gay-ass shopping buddy date with the girl or ask for her Facebook. If they ever finally get the girl alone its like surprise, I have a penis!!! And the girl goes “wtf?? I thought you were my buddy!!”

If you go indirect, you should be doing indirect with a purpose. You should be looking for opportunities to escalate and lead the interaction to sex right from “how do I get to Place?”. Yes, even in the daytime. Drop innuendo, qualify her then state your interest, push for her # and going out for drinks not her Facebook and her helping you go shopping.

So you escalate indirect game should become direct game as soon as possible. The major difference is that you’re going in uninterested until she qualifies herself beyond her looks, then flooring the gas. VS at night where the girls are already asking to be qualified by their looks just by going out dressed up. Or VS shitty indirect game where you never floor the gas and you brag to all your buddies that you totally picked up this super HB10+++++ when in reality she’ll probably flake on you because she needs cock not another “buddy” and you’ll txt her for months and invite her out and flirt on Facebook and feel like the pimp but will never actually put your P in her V because instead of treating her like you’d treat an ugly chick you feel you deserve, you put her up on an indirect game pedestal. I’ve got a buddy who photographs models and he’s always showing us pics of the girls he’s photographing and acting like he’s a pimp for “knowing” these hotties. I just ask him “so have you fucked her yet?” the answer is always no. And he never will. But he’s happy enough with the validation of hanging around them, he doesn’t care about actual jizz on her face results.

What’s the difference between day game and night game? The sun is out.

erZoption · 2019-07-07T02:20:37+00:00

Eye contact! Be bold and hold that shit while you talk to them. They will even make moves on you OP. Ask if your single etc. General eye contact is 1-2 seconds. Non interest. Strong eye contact is flirting. Touch the back of there arm or hand gently. If you’re sitting close and her body is turned toward yours you can touch her legs with yours.

2019-07-07T02:43:30+00:00

Dude let it go! Be in the present! You can do this by focusing on the senses. I focus on the air for example. When ever I walk I’ll focus on the air that’s hitting my finger tips or whatever sound is most present. It shuts off your thinking mind and allows you to flirt with whoever you want Also change your emotions before you make eye contact or while you do it. Don’t do it in a depressed state cause the girl will feel that shit. Be happy and expressive and talk in that way to her.

judahman8 · 2019-07-07T03:35:26+00:00

You have a playbook with a bunch of pre set conversation threads, routine stacks and gambles at your disposal. Having this stuff allows you to automatically lead the conversation in the desired direction.

Routine stacks get a bad rep because they are extremely misunderstood and misused. The goal is to be spontaneous as possible and to fall back on routine stacks and gambles.

Gaming without routine stacks and gambles is like playing football without a play book. Half of the game is spontaneous, this is everything after the snap. Before the snap there is a clear goal for each down and a specific play is called. The best teams are the ones with the best playbook, the best coach to call the appropriate play, and the best players to adapt to things on the field.

Even naturals that don't really practice game will tend to do the same things over and over again because they found certain things that work. Take a guy like RSD Tyler who doesn't seem to have any pre set plays on the surface. If you watch him enough you will notice he does and says the same shit over and over again.

When you have plays to call it frees up your brain from having to constantly improvise, therefore it has time to come up with funny clever shit to say. During a routine stack I am thinking of clever shit to say while my mouth is talking on auto pilot. I have all day to think. Therefore all you need is to start building up a playbook and you will never run out of shit to say.

Could you imagine if Tom Brady had to literally come up with every play on the spot before the playclock runs out lol. That's essentially what you are trying to do. Remember that you also have to practice each play you decide to put in your book so when the play is called you don't have to think hard about it. I'm positive that Tom Brady knows every play in the book like the back of his hand. There's no "uh what was that one play again and how does it go?"

IllustriousPepper8 · 2019-09-24T04:32:39+00:00

Just read a lot about conversation. And try. Find a safe place where you won't feel self conscious about yourself.

And try, fail, fail, fail, try. Be interesting. Be interested.

Also, being a good conversationalist comes from a lot of investing in yourself as well: People are interested in talking to someone who is passionate about something.

Learn about body language. Practice reading others.

I had my head up my ass until.... well at least twice your age.

If you're even trying to better yourself at 16, you're way ahead of the curve.

Good luck brother!

Title	I am 16 and I always feel lost. I think I’m good looking but it’s just that I have no Idea how to escalate an conversation
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Date	July 7, 2019 1:03 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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