Should your grow your ego or abandon it?

Mojorisin5150 · 2019-07-31T15:06:14+00:00

Self esteem is part of your ego, but not everything. You can have a high self esteem and a small ego. It just so happens that most people with high self esteem also have large egos.

caesarfecit · 2019-07-31T16:15:19+00:00

Your sense of self and identity is ultimately a mental abstraction. It's a concept, not an existant object. But that doesn't mean it doesn't exist, or shouldn't exist, or isn't a necessary illusion.

A sense of self serves a few essential psychological purposes:

Gives you a consistent set of goals and values to align yourself and your actions by. You need an ego to know what's important to you and where you find meaning in life.
Gives you a consistent social identity. You need an ego to understand your position in social settings and how others relate to you.
Gives you a lens through which to self-evaluate feedback from reality. You need an ego to integrate and evaluate all the natural and social cues reality gives about the consequences of our actions.

So to me the trick is to build a strong identity, without overly identifying with it. The ugly truth of social interactions is that we all put on social masks, especially in unfamiliar settings and with unfamiliar people. But the secret to forming relationships is knowing when a person is trustworthy enough that we can drop the masks and show the depth of our personality. That takes self-transcendence.

evoporto · 2019-07-31T15:33:55+00:00

I don’t need to even think about my ego. I am who I am, for better or worse. I am always myself.

YouNeverKnowAnyone · 2019-07-31T19:30:47+00:00

You trying to be a bitch or a cocky asshole?

Redtoobe · 2019-07-31T14:57:17+00:00

i bet u haven't tried approaching that is y u r asking this question which can be solved by contemplation when you have at least tried approaching

ntipz011 · 2019-08-01T12:09:08+00:00

Read Ego is the enemy

Short answer : drop your ego

ntipz011 · 2019-08-01T12:09:18+00:00

Read Ego is the enemy

Short answer : drop your ego

Ego is a SENSE of high self esteem. True ego less confidence is actually high self esteem.

Title	Should your grow your ego or abandon it?
Author	No_Advantage
Upvotes	6
Comments	13
Date	July 31, 2019 2:07 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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