How to get guys to ask me out? [26 F]

Adjutor21 · 2019-08-05T18:48:35+00:00

I have a girl like you in my friend group. She’s not bad looking and doesn’t have a bad personality, but I’d never ask her to be my girlfriend. Here’s why: She’s too close to the friend group for comfort. All the guys have talked about how attractive she was and how in other circumstances they would date her, but for now we all agree that trying anything with her would ruin a lot of friendships and cause drama. She’s super cool and makes jokes which makes it worse since it fortifies the friend zone wall all of us have.

My advice is to chase guys outside the group, and talk about how boys are chasing you to the group of guys; which will make them realize they may miss a chance with you and force them to act. Or approach the guys individually, start hanging out one on one, and somehow make them remember you’re an attractive girl and forget the restrictions they have towards a relationship with you.

smoothmax · 2019-08-05T18:00:32+00:00

Another girl asked the same question recently, here is what I replied. (with an update):

Leil Lowndes' book "How to make anyone fall in love with you" is good and it's for guys and girls. Kind of old-fashioned 90s vibe but still good.

I liked Kezia Noble's book on seduction for guys, has she also written a book for women? I find her sensible and realistic. UPDATE - apparently she hasn't written a book for girls, but I think her book "The Noble Art of Seduction" (for guys) could be useful for you to read.

You should read dating advice for guys, not because you will get pickup tips (or maybe you will) but mostly because it will help you recognize who is a cool guy that's good with women and who is a desperate wannabe beta male. The guys who don't know pickup techniques are the betas because they tend to be needy and self-centered, bad conversationalists, bad in bed, and if you turn them down they're more likely to get angry or stalk you.

Watch infield videos of pickup artists approaching girls on the street. Pay attention to the ones who you think are attractive and nice. Look for that in guys. Look at how the girls are dressed and how they walk and talk. If you imitate those girls you will appeal to the kind of good-looking, conscientious and cool guys who either know "game" or who do it naturally.

Don't settle for less!

2019-08-06T02:12:16+00:00

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voiderol · 2019-08-06T03:14:17+00:00

Have you tried asking anyone out? I had the same problem but I finally asked someone out and he said he was always afraid to make a move.

xtracsss · 2019-08-06T06:39:40+00:00

normally if a guy is comfortable enough with you to talk about their sex life it means ur def seen as a "bro" and not a girl. sorry to say. try not to lead with sex jokes if you wana get that guy coz it makes him think that your being crass for no reason. Sex jokes are for bros you dont want to get with. keep it there. haha its better if u pretend to act disgusted (laugh but be like ewwww or something like that) but dont add to it. Act innocent and let them understand thats its funny but not really ok to talk about something so personal. It adds to the mystery. The guys will be like "hmmmm...wonder what it would be like in bed with her" then your gold.

BetterBeLuckyThanGud · 2019-08-06T07:15:08+00:00

You're not meeting enough people , you stay with the same group etc, even 'ugly' ( no one is ever ugly in my opinion ) women get asked out.

Like most comment Say , men are visual. Yet if you dress like a 'slut'/vulgar person, you'll bé treated like one. Ever seen a slut beeing asked out ? No ( not saying you dress like one )

You have to research first what kind of men you are looking for. Dress apropriatly( geek nerd , sporty , fashion , vulgar , classy ) and screen people out.

You know , there IS a difference between a random girl and a Lady/Women : as soon as a Woman enters a room , everybody knows and wants her. It's about the aura , thé énergie , thé charisma , thé confidence , thé posture , thé way she walks. This is innerwork and wont change tomorow ( same for men )

To me, you seem liké a nice girl trying to please people : not getting enough attention ? Let throw some random sexual jokes : nice ! you just killed any possible tension and now people know what you're thinking about. Thé fact that you even laugh about it kills any possible attraction . Worth it for few sec of attention ?

There are so Many ways to attract mens attention , yet it all depends on what kind of men. For me, ignorance makes me invest and i get attracted ( it's an exemple ). The harder i get ignored face to face the more i'm attracted ( ok im différent )

Where do you go out ? Where do you hang out ? How do you adapt ? Do you send signals , if yes how ? Men don't Ask out liké this After few minutes ( a few do )

How do you get asked out ? Respect your self , don't please people , and ffs smile. A Woman smiling at a Man first IS so rare. Sée a Man you liké , smile at him. If he doesn't approach you , too bad for him obviously.

why thé need to bé asked out ? If needy , go Tinder it will bé Free shopping for you... Looking for something serious ? Care less about men and go cultivate that innerself.

Send me please a pic too to verify assumptions. If you're even a 4/10 and dont get asked out , you're not going out enough.

Tldr : smile and men will Ask you out. (I Wonder actually how Many péople chicken out when receiving a smile )

PS : mobile writting , sorry format and accent, peacing out

millenialprincess · 2019-08-05T17:43:20+00:00

Improve your looks. Guys are very visual and are willing to be tricked by it.

Learn how to dress better.
Put on better makeup.
Take care of your skins, hairs.
Get in better shape at the gym (squat a lot -> nicer butts).
Push-up bras can be cheatingly effective XD.

Personality comes second to looks when it comes to guys. Dirty jokes don't really turn guys on. If anything, they view you as one of their guy friends because that's what guys do. They make dirty jokes.

JohntheAnabaptist · 2019-08-05T17:54:36+00:00

Guys are dumb, be forward

millenialprincess · 2019-08-05T22:29:19+00:00

No, im just jealous i didnt get asked out.

millenialprincess · 2019-08-06T01:30:01+00:00

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millenialprincess · 2019-08-06T01:43:52+00:00

Your job as a girl is to show interest and send us those choosing signals that you are interested in us, the rest is on us. But sadly nowadays even with all those signals some women send guys are just too scared to approach or to talk to a girl.

Cheers59 · 2019-08-06T03:07:42+00:00

This girl is lying about her looks for attention.

Trufemcel poster 5 months ago and now she’s banging hot apparently.

Something is off.

millenialprincess · 2019-08-06T18:44:29+00:00

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Title	How to get guys to ask me out? [26 F]
Author	millenialprincess
Upvotes	12
Comments	50
Date	August 5, 2019 5:28 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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