Should I take her turning down date cause she was busy as unlucky or a rejection?

Smooth_Surfaces · 2019-08-07T02:31:19+00:00

The emoji and the second message make it seems like she wants to hang.

Ask to chill once again and if she doesn't reciprocate interest and/or blows you off again then you should prolly let it go

NormalFemale · 2019-08-07T02:34:19+00:00

Why don't you just hang out with her and her friends? And show more interest to some of her friends. You never know what can happen in that kind of situation.

qwerty2173 · 2019-08-07T03:58:48+00:00

She's definitely interested in you in some way if she's asking you to hang out with them. Whether or not it's just platonic depends on your previous interactions with her. Have you been man to woman with her or sexual at all in your past conversations?

smoothmax · 2019-08-07T04:31:55+00:00

I think it's pretty solid.

No I don't think she has given you a hard friendzone with this, you're being pessimistic.

I wouldn't try to make plans with her again. You chased her and fell on your face, now you have to get her to chase you.

Depending on the time frame when you will go away back to school, I would put her aside for a few days or a week or so and when you think of a sassy message to send her, do it but then go quiet and see if she bites.

Last Sunday I asked a girl who was at a party that I was invited to but didn't attend,

"So how was the party, are you going to tell me all about it" (implied, in a coffee date)

This was too needy and I got ghosted. I waited 2 days and then I texted:

"You're hard on the pigs though" (someone posted a picture of a pig they roasted)

She replied within 2 hours:

"Hey sorry haven't gotten back to you!. Gonna be out and about Thursday. Maybe we can meet for a coffee and catch up?" BAM!

So your only jobs for the next couple/few days are, (1) game other women to stay sharp and feel the abundance, and (2) think of a reasonably funny, non-sequitur quip you can send that will intrigue her or slightly neg her, with absolutely not a smell of desire/desperation for a date/hookup.

Or do what I'm now going to christen the Smoothmax special, and fake-accidentally text her a sassy message ("Hey trouble" or "Are you spontaneous?" and then say, "Oooo sorry that was for someone else. Sorry!" Go absolutely quiet until she takes the bait and asks you "WTF", and maybe suggests a hangout. You feign complete non-interest until she chases. It worked for me once, it's probably a great strategy.

If it doesn't work out and you go away to different schools, if there is a realistic chance you could get together in a few months or in a year, put her on your very slow list of girls you update with something cool/funny and totally not a question, not asking her out, not showing any romantic interest. Like, every month or two. For sure, she's going to start asking at some point, what you're doing over the holidays/spring break, what you're doing next summer. You just have to act friendly but not at all needy/desperate to set something up.

TheXXL · 2019-08-07T11:38:47+00:00

I think you should have just took her up on her offer and have fun.I mean, think about it: You and two girls in a bar... Have you ever done that? I have a lot of times, and it's a lot of fun and a biiiig amount of attention from other women just because you are being seen with two (hopefully hot) girls.

Title	Should I take her turning down date cause she was busy as unlucky or a rejection?
Author	bbqgroundbeef
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Comments	11
Date	August 7, 2019 2:29 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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