Vulnerability and attraction

BrunoFromBrazil · 2019-08-07T11:55:23+00:00

First off let's address the whole 'being yourself' thing.

Right now I'm wearing my pajamas, as I just woke up. If I go to a nightclub dressed like this, chances of picking up a girl will drop dramatically (been there, done that. Did get a girl, but wasn't easy).

But if I dress up nice, am I still being myself?

Of course I am. What I'm wearing is not who I am, it's just one way to showcase my character and that can change in different situations. Suit for business meetings, dress shirt for going out, sneakers for jogging, pajamas for sleeping, etc.

Similarly, adapting what you say and how you behave in different situations is NOT being fake or inauthentic. It's just different ways of 'dressing' your character.

A girl you're trying to pickup is NOT your family. You can throw up in your mom's lap and she'll still love you and take care of you. Now do that to a girl you've just met and see what happens.

If you show all your insecurities and vulnerabilities to a person you're just getting to know, they'll usually lose all interest in you or treat you as a weak, vulnerable person who needs help.

Not the right attire for the occasion.

So no, don't show too much vulnerability in your first dates/during pickup. You can show SOME, like a story about your childhood - that's actually good. But it's 100% critical that she feels like NOW you are someone who's got their shit together.

You'll have plenty of time to share all your fears and traumas with your girlfriend/wife, but she needs to be heavily attracted/commited to you first.

And even then... she's not your mom. Remember that.

ProudRamboBSNS · 2019-08-07T13:51:14+00:00

How I remembered Mason's vulnerability is that you make yourself vulnerable by approaching despite everything and opening yourself up for potential rejection. It's more about being brave by approaching.

It's not about being verbally vulnerable. You don't do that shit until her attraction level is high and it's somewhat late into the relationship. And consider whether you really have to tell her the thing you want to tell her and think about the possible downfall of telling her that exact thing.

This is the course of action if you want to seduce.

brabg · 2019-08-07T14:03:11+00:00

I stumbled upon the concept of vulnerability by watching Brene Brown's

Do NEVER take romantic advice from women.

Do NEVER expect love out of pity.

Do NEVER expect a woman to like you, like your mother.

Women don't want you to be weak. The only use for "vulnerability" is to show that your flaws are not your weakness. That you do not care about not being prefect. That you are not looking for "protection and love" for your weakness.

Vulnerability is a really bad word for that purpose. You can be easily confused.

Noelle6 · 2019-08-07T09:10:20+00:00

Keep doing what you are doing. Being yourself is the best thing ever. Those women probably aren't meant for you if they step back when you are being yourself. I'm a woman and I appriciate when a man is brave enough to show their real self.

Title	Vulnerability and attraction
Author	angry_voices
Upvotes	5
Comments	10
Date	August 7, 2019 8:49 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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