Are you fed up with pick-up? Thinking of taking a break from approaching? Maybe you're considering going full monk mode?

I recently received a message from a guy who wanted to pack it all in.

His message read:

"Yo, do you ever feel like you've had enough of chasing and don't care about getting laid anymore?

"The effort is too much even with a 30% success rate or even more. It's just too exhausting to flirt and interact with many girls.

"I feel like I'm better off investing in academia, work and finance as well as friends and family time. I've had enough of the dating scene to not care anymore.

"Not only chasing but also initiating, even if you're so good they do the chasing afterwards. Initiating is intensive and every shut down makes me want to puke."

Strong words...Perhaps you've felt the same. I know I have.

There is a lot of BS involved with finding a partner. Women can be rude, expose your deepest insecurities when you approach them. There's every chance she gets dragged away by a friend or some better-looking guy. Meanwhile, ghosting is becoming increasingly common.

It's also true that not everyone loves socialising. I'm aware that low self-esteem guys take rejections to heart and that introverts lose energy when they speak to a lot of strangers. 

However, I believe the following advice should prevent this from becoming too much of a problem.  

Focus on 'The Thrill of the Chase'

The bloke who sent this message (and anyone who can relate to him) is struggling because he's not focusing on the excitement of meeting new people or the rush of that initial chemistry with a woman. He's not enjoying the adventure of trying to take home a beautiful stranger. He's just thinking about the RESULTS. 

This is understandable. We are only human and involuntary celibacy is frustrating. It's well known that a lot of guys base their self-worth on how much sex they have. 

I used to suffer from similar problems to the guy who sent this message.

After being cheated on, my confidence had been destroyed. Every positive aspect of my personality had been drained and replaced with bitterness. I'd still try to meet women, but these interactions were motivated by desperation. This wasn't about fun. It was about boosting my self-esteem and finding a new girlfriend, so I could forget about being cheated on. I wanted IMMEDIATE RESULTS so I could stop feeling sad and start feeling purposeful again. 

Unsurprisingly, I didn't hook up with one woman while I felt like this. Women in nightclubs aren't interested in healing tortured souls. They just want to have FUN.

Thankfully, I eventually learned how to start enjoying being single and focus on having fun when I was out with my friends.

Once I did that, the results with women started to return.

You can't hide from this problem

Career, sports, hobbies, academia and family are fantastic pursuits, but the fact you want to have sex (and most likely a loving relationship) with women isn't going to suddenly vanish.

These desires are biological. You can't escape them.

By 'taking a break' from game, you're failing to address your lack of success in this area. What then? Well, whenever you decide to readdress it, you'll have the same anxiety, the same bitterness, the same level of results with women. You'll still be reeking of desperation whenever you find yourself in a romantic situation. Plus, you'll be slightly older.

Being a cold-approach beginner isn't easy, but it's best to confront this problem now.

Being by addressing your self-esteem, then by getting a basic idea of pick-up fundamentals. From there, find a wingman, hit the bars and have an awesome time. Meet some women and start talking about what you find funny. Focus on amusing yourself rather than impressing her. Have fun and watch as the women get sucked in.

Honestly, this all it takes to start seeing some initial results....at least enough to have you enjoying the taste of the game once more.

It's surely a better gameplan than giving up altogether.

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