Do you guys remember your worst blow-out during your early stages of cold approach? What happened and how did you react in that situation? Would you say to take action regardless of how weird you seem?

Imperator_Pyra · 2019-11-22T11:10:07+00:00

My friend, I feel like you're overthinking this.

Anyway, if a direct approach scares you so much, start by walking up to a stranger and just saying hi.

Literally, just walk up to someone, say hi, then leave.

Then, when you're ok with that, add a follow up question: "how's it going?" and try to have small talk.

And when that's not a problem anymore, take another step further. I think you get it by now. Baby steps.

And yeah, I'm not answering the question about the worst blow-out, because that's not what you need to hear right now. I got blown out, but I survived, I persevered, and now I have sex with multiple women. Your turn.

Hubblenobbin · 2019-11-23T01:59:12+00:00

I can only remember a few bad ones out of thousands. I think the first memory of a seriously bad reaction was a couple hundred approaches in. I went up to this really hot girl and her friend, barely get a word out, and she goes "I DON'T WANT TO TALK TO YOU!" in a full throated yell. I looked at her like she was an idiot, laughed, walked to the other side of the room and opened the next girl.

There were a bunch early on where I was super shy or half-stepping, and girls would look at me like I was awkward and backturn. That can still happen when I'm cold, and I'll get rejections all the time when I'm hot because everyone is different. I dressed awfully at first, my hair was a mess, wearing baggy t-shirts, unhemmed jeans, and ratty skate shoes. Some girls loved me anyway because my mouthpiece was tight sometimes.

Just the fact that you approach is a victory man, you get better with time, don't judge yourself for the awkward ones. If you want this, it's part of the journey.

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