I posted this in r/female_dating_strategies and immediately got banned

Losingandconfused · 2019-12-25T23:31:41+00:00

I (40F) agree with you. I find the default feedback about men/dating from other women to very quickly jump to the guy being an asshole. If I have to hear “he’s just not that into you” in response to a nuanced situation, I’m going to scream. Second only to “he’s just using you for sex”. He can’t be using me for it when I’m getting what I want.

Good on you for noticing and saying something.

k88closer · 2019-12-25T23:06:44+00:00

r/FemaleDatingStategy is basically a group for female incels

pedromcC29 · 2019-12-25T22:59:38+00:00

You where immediately banned because you don't hate men. They done the right thing by banning you, you dont sound like you belong in their hate group. Good for you 👌 x

Darukoaus · 2019-12-25T23:12:15+00:00

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what-da-fuk · 2019-12-25T22:54:27+00:00

I wish more women were like you.

Creevy · 2019-12-25T23:33:32+00:00

Yeah, you can't post that sort of shit there, you make too much sense.

DaNewKidOnDaBlock · 2019-12-25T23:14:11+00:00

Followed that sub for a bit because I thought "huh, it will be interesting to learn about what women are thinking and trying to do in the dating world. It would be nice to have some insight". I eventually had to unfollow because of essentially what you mentioned. I'm all for women being successful at whatever they pursue, but I so often felt attacked in that sub. Attacking others to make yourself feel better is not real empowerment.

k88closer · 2019-12-25T23:25:33+00:00

I’ve been reading FDS for a while now, and honestly it feels like most of those women are working through some serious emotional trauma. I feel bad for most of them. Some of them are the female equivalent of incels, where they are their own worst enemy with respect to attracting partners, but many of them seem to have been alpha widowed and are looking to make themselves feel better. Poor things. What they often fail to grasp, and many men are like this too, is that if their goal is to attract a high value man, they themselves need to be high value in the eyes of men. They can hold themselves in high regard all they want, but that won’t help them attract a HVM. They need to be valuable in accordance with the male value system, which may function in ways they don’t understand. Again, this affects men with respect to women also.

Cirrustratus · 2019-12-25T23:18:51+00:00

i think I replied to a post from you about this. So creating a different sub would be good? I think most females would have a hard time to get a more objective view in order to discuss dating strategies. You probably will have much more success than most of women. Wish you the best

2019-12-25T23:32:42+00:00

the internet is a silly place

Sephass · 2019-12-25T23:34:16+00:00

I took a look and the whole sub looks tragic. Looking at the posts, I wonder what kind of experiences one has to have in order to be so defensive. It doesn't even make me angry or disturbed, it simply makes me sad.

I definitely agree with you, you attract by giving. With this kind of attitude I would only expect self-fulfiling prophecies, as I cannot believe a normal guy would put up with so much passive aggression and toxic attitude.

Suntzie · 2019-12-25T23:37:35+00:00

Respect

Darukoaus · 2019-12-26T05:35:09+00:00

Most female dating advice comes from women who have no business dating, and less telling other women how to date.

No reasonable person – absolutely no reasonable person – would prescribe the cynical, machiavellian, openly manipulative and abusive most "female dating coaches" tell other women to use to get what they want out of relationships.

I'm not saying the seduction community is without its bad apples, but at least when dudes are cads, and in it just for the lay, they're usually pretty forthright about it.

I'm entirely unsurprised that you got whacked with the banhammer. The admins of that site are probably manipulative, shitty women who are vain enough to think manipulating women into being as nasty and bitter as they are is going to make things better.

2019-12-26T05:48:46+00:00

If guys we're posting that or acting that way it would be borderline hate speech. Maybe it is good to hear when you are super down and need a pick me up. Definitely good for perspective, but getting booted for being more moderate or tolerant is all you really need to know.

TheMaslankaDude · 2019-12-25T23:47:25+00:00

Many places on reddit will shun you for having a differing opinion from the rest, and will get you either banned or downvoted to intinity and then banned

le_GoogleFit · 2019-12-25T23:10:16+00:00

I'd never heard of that sub before. What is it about?

Like r/seduction but with advices mostly for women instead?

Darukoaus · 2019-12-25T23:25:38+00:00

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Drygord · 2019-12-25T23:05:00+00:00

Female dating strategies actually exist? LOL- it’s called “have a pussy”.

jdcodring · 2019-12-25T23:09:11+00:00

Wow. Ignoring the comments that don’t add anything to the conversation:

Are you actually a female? I’ve never heard of female dating advice that suggest females be cold and off-putting.

Your suggestions are a thinly veiled attack at best. At worst it comes off as very stereotypical incel thinking.

Do you have the message for your ban? Does it say why you were banned?

Title	I posted this in r/female_dating_strategies and immediately got banned
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	83
Comments	59
Date	December 25, 2019 10:49 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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