How to get rid of limiting beliefs if they are true?

grrinchas · 2020-01-06T08:07:52+00:00

If you think you are so unlucky, then what about guys who are disabled? Or has other deformities?

Just work with what you have. You have no other option.

AxP3 · 2020-01-06T11:05:06+00:00

Limiting beliefs are a frame you set for yourself through which you see the world. You are afraid of taking action, getting rejected, and becoming better over time, so it’s easier to find a reason you’re like this, however unjustifiable.

You say it’s harder for non-white men to find women. To what extent? 5%? 10%? 90%? It is something you would never be able to determine, which is why you throw it out of the equation completely and only focus on things that are in your control. I’ll bet you had a similar limiting belief before acquiring this one, and now you just replaced it. You’re going to replace this one too eventually, as you see more and more non-white men with women. But do you want to spend your life shifting from one limiting belief about the external you cannot control to the other, or do you want to take charge of your life by becoming consistent? Go through hundreds of rejections if need be. It’s more honorable than living a life of idiotic excuses as to who you are. You may be a piece of shit right now. That does not mean you’ll always be a piece of shit. It’s about who you want to become and working consistently towards that, regardless of failure along the way.

IntrepidFoot · 2020-01-06T09:12:54+00:00

it's a bit of a PUA cringey term. You know if something is a 'limiting belief' or whether it's just a fact of life.

If PUA's started teaching how to be a professional basketball player, they'd tell you that your excuses about having no arms are also a 'limiting belief'. I promise lol.

Don't forget that's it's business first. Use common sense. Look at those around you who you can see with your own eyes. Who's having success? Who has the same limitations as you? How are they doing? That's the best way to see what is a limiting belief or not.

GrantTB · 2020-01-06T15:38:40+00:00

White guy here, fwiw. To be blunt but hopefully constructive, I find the premise ironic, because I think that to a large extent white college girls often want black guys, for several reasons. I assume dating is a grind for almost all straight guys, but you may well have an advantage with this, arguably the hottest group. Just my 2c.

Captain_w00t · 2020-01-06T15:59:38+00:00

You are blaming luck and your skin color to explain your failure with women.

Rather than looking for arguments to auto-assolve yourself, like reading the redpillers shit, you might spend your time doing better things to improve:

Gym
Clothes
hair/beard grooming
pursuing interests, hobbies, activities you enjoy the most
going out alone or with friends and having fun
reading self-improvement books
challenge yourself in leaving the comfort zone

Blame yourself for not taking these steps, not genetics or a generic luck.

And please, avoid red/black pills like the hell, that’s an unhealthy mindset inspired by frustrated and desperate people without social clues.

Aghayden · 2020-01-06T09:12:28+00:00

"There are even statistics that prove this."

There are statistics that prove non-white men can't get a girlfriend?

I'll bet you $10,000,000 there are no legitimate statistics saying this.

You could argue that people of different races get less matches on dating apps or have a higher statistical chance of being single, but that's far-fetched from what you're saying here.

Just look around you, men of every race have girlfriends, that's an easily verifiable fact.

"I tried to stop think about it and get out of my head buts its not possible."

You're already shooting yourself in the foot by telling yourself, "It's not possible." You're creating a psychological trap with this kind of language. Tell yourself, "I"m struggling with this," "It's been difficult to change."

Eliminate words like, "Impossible," and "I can't" from your vocabulary. It might sound like cheesey advice, but really think about what that kind of language is doing to your psyche.

2020-01-06T07:50:39+00:00

What? I don't understand what you are saying? Are you saying you cannot get women because you are not white? That makes no sense. What is your race? It really doesn't matter, just shoot your shot.

You can A. not get with women and settle with your limiting beliefs

Or B. Shoot your shot and have the chance of getting with women.

Choose one.

ZlatanAgrees · 2020-01-06T08:48:40+00:00

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Title	How to get rid of limiting beliefs if they are true?
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Date	January 6, 2020 7:29 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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