Wait, what?! But I thought women are attracted to confidence?

They totally are. But if you ask them "How do you feel about a man approaching you in public?", their top complaints are:

  1. Disrespectful approaches
  2. Cocky / over-confident approaches

What does over-confidence mean?

When you approach a woman, you should do so respectfully and authentically. You are already exhibiting extreme confidence by approaching her in the first place. If, for the following 10 minutes of vibing, you are nothing but confident, and show no vulnerability, no chinks in your armor, you're essentially showing how good you are at approaching, which means you do it all the time, which means she is not special. Since she's not special, she is probably going to give you her number and then flake on you. At the very least, she's going to see you as a player. (Maybe you're fine with that, but I'm looking for love and I'm not.)

Are you feeling particularly nervous on this approach? Tell her. Be vulnerable with her. "Wow, I'm actually kinda nervous, you're super cute." Or use a vulnerable opener: "Excuse me, my heart is beating so fast right now, but I just had to come meet you."

Did something awkward happen, like an awkward silence or your hand shaking while you were handing her your phone? Point it out and own it, don't pretend it didn't happen. Women can see right through that. If you try to play it cool and confident, and you don't acknowledge it, you look cocky and inauthentic.

If you're looking for love, this is a much better approach than over-confidence.

If you're getting a lot of numbers, but not a lot of dates, I believe you should try to be more authentic and try to connect more, rather than trying to focus on technical things like confidence or kino.

If you want some evidence, Sasha Daygame conveniently recently interviewed a bunch of women, and they repeat those 2 complaints over and over again: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kWquT0V0YWU