How do I avoid acting like an asshole?

ApollosSin · 2020-01-15T00:41:25+00:00

Same problem w/ me, but a word of advice.

Just extend the reply.

No thanks

Turns into

No thank you

Turns into

No, but I appreciate the invite.

McLovinReturns · 2020-01-14T23:20:40+00:00

"Nah I'm good, I'm a bit busy"

axe122 · 2020-01-15T01:00:58+00:00

Was it a guy or girl? Girl your dating? Friend? Random? It matters which sex. If it was a girl I’d just laugh and make a joke about it I’d say “you got legs and hands don’t ya?” But you say it in a way that’s like I’m not doing this for you but I’m also not to serious about the whole thing. Almost like she’s being ridiculous and silly for asking and your onto her game of trying to get you to do things for her but nice try. That attitude actually turns them on too, women like assholes even when they say they don’t what you don’t wanna be and what I think your describing is more of an angry or bitter jerk off.

That’s the vibe I got more of when I read what you wrote was a guy who was mad he was asked. Play it like I know your tryna push me around but nope! That don’t work on me. That’s the attitude and tone you wanna have with whatever you say.

I’ll do this if she’s my girlfriend, acquaintance, sex playmate, friend or whatever.

If it’s a guy I almost do the same thing but I may play it like a little more of an angry jerk off cuz I want him to know he’s not gonna get over on me and he’s basically disrespecting me trying to get me to do shit for him like he views me as beneath him or something. I’ll do it somewhere in between the two maybe with a slightly firmer tone, it’s more like a” come on dude give me a break I’m not doing this shit for you your a grown ass man and can do your own errands”. But I’ll still keep a bit of the laughing it off too like I’m not taking it to seriously but I’m sure as hell not doing it.

Probly be like “get off your lazy ass and do it your self ya dick” but I’ll kinda laugh about it cuz they’re still my friend and I still wanna hang with them. They are just seeing what they can get away with or you allowed them to do this to you before do to low self esteem and didn’t notice it until you started working on yourself and game. People do what you allow them to do to you.

If you don’t know them its often a form of social testing to see if they are above you or test if your a threat to them. They either think they can bully you cuz they bully a lot of people and you put off a vibe of someone they can do this to or they’re threatened by something about you, maybe they caught their girl looking at you so they try to punk you in front of her.

If it’s just a random dude you don’t know just say no or Na I’m cool, I’d still use the tone of laughing it off though so you still seem friendly and they’ll just form a mutual respect for you. If you angry jerk off them they most likely won’t want anything to do with you and if they have all the hot girls around them later cuz they’re popular they will view you as more of a threat than an ally and won’t want you in their circle.

Just make sure you get your point across without losing respect and isolating yourself. You’ll want friends and attractive girls interested in you so don’t be all negative and closed off. Just kinda laugh it off while saying your not gonna do it.

Insaneflirt_max · 2020-01-15T06:13:13+00:00

Politely decline. Emphasize one the polite part.

2020-01-15T09:33:24+00:00

What’s wrong with someone not liking your response? You didn’t swear at them or anything. You just had firm boundaries and were blunt about it. Don’t need to be polite they were rude for asking you in the first place when they could have done it themselves. A lot of guys on this sub have been conditioned by their mammas to be “nice guys” and so anytime they express boundaries and someone disapproves eiths face for example the guy feels guilty and tries to modify their behaviour to be more polite like you’re doing now. Just own it. Not everyone has to like you or your response. Own it and you’ll be a free man. (And more attractive with the ladies)

Caution: at work it’s geberally good to be polite though .. being too strong with boundaries or alpha can stir up other egos and your boss may get pissed off. So their is a time for politeness if only to keep your job .. but most other times just be a man and allow others to dislike you.

bigredten · 2020-01-15T11:42:10+00:00

If you do that with a grin on your face you'll probably be fine. Unless they're handicapped they can grab it themselves. I only say yes to those situations if it's mutually understood we do the same for eachother. Even then we usually offer to do it, not ask.

Title	How do I avoid acting like an asshole?
Author	throwaway924842
Upvotes	2
Comments	6
Date	January 14, 2020 11:12 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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