Moving On and Being Ghosted

Speculater · 2020-01-27T03:24:50+00:00

Don't take it personal. Easier said than done I know, but she's just not that in to you. Ghosting is shitty, but that's on her, not you. In the future stop after the second text :-D.

axe122 · 2020-01-27T05:14:13+00:00

Next date you go on don’t waste your time trying to get to know her. You’ll get to know her over several dates so just have fun ,tease her,sexually escalate and take her home. I take home 80% of the girls if go out with on the first date and the other 19% within 3 dates but the fact that I was fun and attempting to get them in the bedroom was a huge difference maker for me.

A girl won’t go out on a date with a guy she doesn’t view as a potential sexual partner. It’s a waste of their time and they don’t even give these guys their number. I used to have the same problem you did and after the first date she no longer viewed you as a potential sexual partner. You had her and lost her, basically you were probably to overly respectful, asking way to many questions and putting off a plutonic vibe(even with the makeout) Sex comes before a relationship not after in today’s society so adapt to that and don’t hold some moral high ground standards that your gonna try and do things old fashioned or some shit like that cuz your wasting both your time.

If your overly respectful and nice on the dates flipping it and just going for sex and making the whole interaction flirty,playful and sexual you’ll probably end up somewhere in the middle which is where girls desire Guys relationship wise(if that’s what your looking for which it sound like based on oneitis)

I used to go on a ton of dates and we’d laugh have great conversation (so I thought), we’d have a lot in common, no awkwardness or awkward pauses, kissed her at the end of the night and thought the date went great. Then I’d never hear from her again or I’d get no connection, no spark or better as friends. I haven’t got that once since I started being way more aggressive and just going for sex.these are girls who are telling me they want a boyfriend and are 25-35 years old. They continue seeing me after too, I’ve never experienced a buyers remorse thing. I should be clear that While I don’t chase them if they’re reaching out to me I’ll spend the time to actually talk with them and flirt via text but I just get to know them little by little over time and just focus on having fun and making the date sexual. I do this Instead of interviewing her on a date and getting to know her life story then never seeing her again.

Also I have got girls doing the whole ask a lot of questions super respectful date I described but I lost a lot too. I didn’t realize to later I was basically going out on dates until a girl found me attractive enough and good enough on paper to make it easy for me. I would date maybe 1/5 girls I took out now it’s 99% of the girls I take out I see continuously. My mindset is she’s on the date with me she wouldn’t be here if she didn’t view me as a potential sexual partner so now I just have to make it happen and seduce her. As opposed to getting to know her and the interaction is basically plutonic until the last 1/8 of the date you try and escalate but even if she kisses you a lot of times they do it cuz it’s only a kiss,not that big a deal and easier than rejecting you especially if you really go for the kiss/makeout. She had put you in the plutonic side of her mind and by the time you turned up the heat you often already lost her.

This has been the difference between me waiting to be chosen by a cute one and having enough options that I’m also the chooser. Im picking the one who’s the most compatible long term out of all the hot ones instead of me basically waiting for a hot one to choose me.

wawakaka · 2020-01-27T06:22:26+00:00

you fell in love and she saw you as weak and needy. you are chasing and she is running. you can't catch something that doesnt' want to be caught. she has better options.

move on.

Alex_O7 · 2020-01-27T12:48:19+00:00

You have to analyse what happen during your interaction. In the most objective way.

After all you can not controll the distorted mind of anyone else except you. So don't be too mad for what happened, after a certain point it's not your fault.

VDKay · 2020-01-27T11:37:03+00:00

Look man, ghosting hurts. I know alright. But it is an indication that you are moving forward. You are getting dates and girls get interested in you. Way to go! There are a million reasons she might have ghosted you and, from my experience, whatever we speculate, it's gonna be something else (maybe her dog is sick, maybe her ex started texting her, maybe she met some other dude, maybe she decided she is a lesbian after all, maybe she went through some tough shit and wants to get her shit together before dating, maybe she realized that you are expecting something different out of this interaction than her, who knows!) The point in all cases is to take it as a clear signal that she does NOT want to move on with you at this very moment. Your takeaway is to not take her behaviour personal. The only thing you can do is to look back at your own behaviour/actions and pinpoint things that you learnt and you can fix in the future (as you have already started doing).

farandbeyond258 · 2020-01-27T09:43:19+00:00

U feel like shit cause your a good guy and shes a bitch. I mean you did nothing wrong if she wasnt interested then she should have texted, either she doesnt like you or is playing games either way she sounds like a bitch

MikepGrey · 2020-01-27T04:32:47+00:00

write them once and if they don't write back delete them, IF they respond you wont know who they are and it puts them in their place... also puts you on notice this person is not reliable (you will be surprised how many actually do try to get you to write them back so they can ghost you if you write once and walk away). Give em one word answers and more or less tell them to go away unless they are going to come meet you where YOU are with YOUR friends (they wont which is why you tell them to come see you, your time is more important then them and you will after a while literally have to tell them to go away - also great for pulling in pussy, go up to a girl and be like "hey what do I say to this stalker chick, shes really pissing me off and creeping me out" 8 out of 10 girls went with me until one of us moved to different states/cities for work using that stunt).... also try not to move around... of my many relationships.... all but 1 ended because one of us had to move for college/work.... wow so.... vel, elly, christal, sonja, katarina, felica (yes I actually went steady with a girl called felicia...) chelsy, silvia... =.= wow fucking moving sucks and the worse part was if I was moving they didn't want to leave "home" and its like wtf we have this great thing going.... why do you want me to live with you in your parents house we are 20+.... Like ladies wtf is with that anyways?

MemeMooMoo321 · 2020-01-27T04:49:48+00:00

Text her saying that you were interested, but understand that it’s over, and that’s fine. Would’ve appreciated a text though, let’s not let ghosting become a normal thing. You wouldn’t want anyone doing that to you.

Title	Moving On and Being Ghosted
Author	DGibby12
Upvotes	20
Comments	11
Date	January 27, 2020 3:13 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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