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[–]lifeunbalanced 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Anyone that reads your post can instantly tell you pretty much have zero experience with girls. The pickup line you chose is essentially the pick up line that most guys with zero experience choose and think it’s a good idea to start off with. That doesn’t have to be a negative but your probably going to get rejected. I wouldn’t put all your hopes in one basket as you seem to be doing.
I would suggest going out and asking out some girls, getting some success before talking to a girl in your social circle that could hurt your progress later on. Work on your game well enough it wouldn’t even faze you to talk to her and then do it. Practising your first times with someone you realistically have high hopes of getting with is a bad idea.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Agreed. Sure thing about that. I'll ask out some random girls and try becoming better at conversations. How would you suggest I should start a conversation or approach someone considering well my pickup line does suck :p
[–]rextokyo 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Dont
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Well what should I do then ?
[–]rextokyo 2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Game other girls
You work and live at same place. So if your game isnt good, and if this is the first time in your life youve approached a woman it wont be, she'll be creeped out. The line you were thinking of using is cringe.
[–]rextokyo 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
What I want you to do is next time you see here at the cafeteria go sit with her, say she looks like she could use some fun. Then bantz with her.
Start slow? Be friends first and smile and wave when I see her and build a rapport first ?
[–]Imperator_Pyra 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
First of all, many people will tell you not to try picking up women you work with, because you might get a bad reputation for yourself (for example).
Secondly, this is social circle game - in social circle game you have be the social, fun, cool guy. "Social" means that you talk to everyone, introduce yourself to people as soon as you see them etc., so it's not weird when you go talk to some girl, because, well, you talk to everyone anyway. At least that's the idea, more or less - you have to be always "on", and, to recapitulate: you have to be social, fun and cool with everyone. You can't treat this situation it the same way as a cold approach "set", where you're hitting on a complete stranger and there's no social context surrounding that interaction - which is what you seem to want to do. That's not how it works, this is a different situation.
The course of action I think you should take is the following:
Go talk to that girl the way you want to anyway, even though it's a bad idea, but you'll feel good that you at least tried.
You will probably NOT get the girl, especially since you have zero experience in picking up women, as you wrote yourself - the important bit now is that you learn from this situation and not repeat the same mistakes.
Read some books on seduction, learn, go practice cold approach pickup.
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PROFIT.
I understand what you mean. Thanks a lot for this advice man. I'll try improving my game over all in bard and cafe first till I'm open enough to talk to anyone. And surely I'll work on that course of action. I'll just smile and say hi next time I see her and then slowly go for it when we get comfortable. Even if it doesn't work. Still worth a learning. What's up with the question marks though? :P
[–]Xazax310 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The other people are correct, you can't treat this like a cold approach. Additionally many people will say "don't shit where you eat" in this case it's shitting where you eat and live so. I'm personally of the mindset, that it doesn't matter, many people date within work because most are working professionals. Being an adult about it all, is where many fail.
I'd say approach her, be friendly, try starting a introduction conversation FIRST. I wouldn't ask her out at all the first time. You can lead that your interested in her, simply by saying I like this or that about you(whatever you learn that like) "You like dogs? Yes, I have a lab. I love dogs! I think that's awesome"(Example). Gauge her interest, continue talking to her whenever you see her.
My two cents.
These two cents could make me rich. :p
Anyways , thanks a lot man. That seems like a good approach. That's what I'm worried about. I won't ask her about a date or something but what should I say when I do approach her. I have only one idea which js I saw one of her friends on the airport when I was going back to my place for the holidays. I'm thinking I could go up to them when they're together and start with 'hey I saw you at the airport' and then talk to them about general stuff.
[–]getyourlifeplease 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
😳😳😳😳...if a guy I worked with and never spoke to, randomly walked up to me AT WORK and asked me out for coffee or a walk, I'd give him a hard NO immediately. Not only is it uncomfortable, but it is awkward as Hell. You have to build rapport first, you have to at the very least try to play it off that you want to get to her first...not just "hi - wanna go for coffee?" Geez.
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