Can't Commit To Any Self-Improvement After A Year And A Half.

machimus · 2015-05-26T20:42:40+00:00

I was going to make multiple suggestions regarding each of your problems...but then I realized it all boils down to self-respect. You obviously don't care enough about yourself to make significant changes. Maybe its easier for you to rationalize being a "natural beta" and just give up. Lazy.

You fail at NoFap, you fail at sticking up for yourself at work, and you fail at expanding your interests. You fail because you set goals that are impossible for you to succeed at right now. You are sabotaging yourself. By the way, stop making excuses and sit down and read No More Mr. Nice Guy by the end of the week. Do it.

You are not going to become a greek god overnight. You are a big, fat block of uncut marble right now. It's ugly. But there is a statue hidden inside. It is your job to hammer yourself, chip by chip, to get to that Ideal Form hidden inside. And you should count each hammer blow as a win. You are getting closer with each tiny chip.

So you're not succeeding at total abstinence in NoFap? Fuck nofap. Once every five days is not a bad starting point. You should pat yourself on the back for that. For that, and every small victory during the day. Now go read that book.

backOnd · 2015-05-26T20:16:03+00:00

You can be fixed bro. A lot of people have trouble really sticking to shit. I myself have had hard times sticking to things I've wanted myself to do. It's about self discipline.

A lot of times you don't want to wake up to go to work, but you make yourself. Why? Because you know you need that $$. Sometimes you don't want to do a project you have for school but you do that shit and you make sure it's good. Why? Because you don't wanna be a fucking failure or that kid that didn't make it out school because they just decided not to do it.

Hard work gets you progress. Discipline gets you progress. Start lifting first and foremost. Lift Lift Lift. It will give you confidence and help you with your discipline.

You CAN make it past five days, you just don't want to. You CAN stop being a beta bitch that works out and works on improving himself instead of whining about how hard it is to commit yourself to something.

Cut out the porn. Every time you feel you want to beat your shit go do push-ups until you can't anymore. Start running. Cut out the shit food. Go to the gym. Read. Improve yourself. Lift Lift Lift.

You want to see yourself as a beta bitch forever? No? Then do something about it. No one can make you do anything. No one can help you feel motivated. You do it yourself.

BrajScience · 2015-05-26T20:08:17+00:00

You may want to read the book "Power of Habit." Kinda weird question: do you make your bed every morning?

Whisper · 2015-05-26T23:41:29+00:00

Reading TRP only helps one problem men have: ignorance of they need to do.

Do you know what you need to do? Yes? Then stop reading TRP and do it. Seriously, leave it alone. Lift, go keto, work on your career.

Get your T levels checked. Consider steroids.

I can't tell anything that's going to make it easy to get moving. If it were easy, there would be no TRP.

redpillbanana · 2015-05-26T20:32:47+00:00

One thing you might want to try is doing things with partners/groups rather than solo. I'd start with lifting - maybe join a Olympic weightlifting group or even Crossfit. Your comrades will incentivize you to keep improving.

"Power of Habit" probably addresses this, but the thing to do is start with small steps. For example, for reading a book, try reading the first sentence, or even the first word. The next day, read the next two. The next day, read a paragraph, then a whole page. It may seem small but it's better than doing nothing. Books also tend to suck you in, so once you start reading, you'll get into it.

Regarding masturbation and pornography: as you improve your life, you'll naturally cut back on these habits, e.g. as you spend time around other people, you'll have less time to fap to porn. The goal is to get your SMV to the point where you actively choose when you want to be alone at night, and you're getting so much sex that fapping and porn become a distant memory.

SPARTA127 · 2015-05-26T20:57:37+00:00

You have to realize that right now you're at the beginning. You've been in the game truly for 2 years now. You're not going to be the most charismatic or powerful guy. You're life is like a good movie. At the beginning is the character where he wants to be in his life? Fuck no.

You need to get serious about this shit. I come from a place where I did not take this seriously and until the age of 25 I was 430 pounds kicked out of two colleges and had no hope and you think your smv was low, I didn't even have an SMV. I turned myself into a man by facing my fears and confronting what I was afraid of. You see that girl and you want to flirt. Go fucking do it. You want to truly make gains in the gym. Lift the weights until you can't lift anymore. You want to lose 185 pounds like me , strap on your running shoes and go.

You need to fall in love with the process. Improving yourself is making a .001% change everyday. Form habits. For instance I wake up at 4 am and mediate for 30 minutes.

dabrah1 · 2015-05-27T01:48:47+00:00

Well everyone else has already said the obvious "just get up and fucking do it" so my suggestion is to get your T levels checked. If your really having THAT much trouble with motivation you might just need to get your levels back to normal.

karmasutur3 · 2015-05-26T20:17:54+00:00

Well, I can't give you any help with your unwillingness to do the book work for TRP. When you're ready, I'll be ready to help.

But if you're lifting consistently, and not seeing gains, I can give you a program which will fix it without any doubt.

Pm me.

true_detective_sf · 2015-05-27T03:29:22+00:00

I managed to make something like $60 million dollars through grit and hard work. I still can't make it past day 5 of nofap. There may be better things to benchmark yourself with.

Do you have any talents or hobbies you enjoy?

Title	Can't Commit To Any Self-Improvement After A Year And A Half.
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Date	May 26, 2015 8:01 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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