What are the hardest IOIs to spot? What do they mean and how accurate are they?

PepeLePunk · 2020-06-09T10:23:54+00:00

IOI's don't mean jack shit.

If you want to know if she's interested in you, hit on her. Stop sitting there trying to read her signals and calculate her mannerisms, as if she's a maths equation, and just ask her out for a coffee.

Reminds me of this:

https://pbfcomics.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/09/PBF267-The-Breakthrough.png

-Andy

screamifyouredriving · 2020-06-09T09:21:10+00:00

They're all hard to spot for me, I'm autistic. When a girl sticks her tongue down my throat during a lull in conversation is how I hooked up with the last few.

manonpoint_com · 2020-06-10T00:02:16+00:00

The key to recognizing IOIs is less the action themselves but the "variance from the norm". A girl who always twirls her hair isn't giving you an IOI by twirling her hair, but a girl who never twirls her hair is giving you an IOI when she does. (Twirling is just an example).

As some others have mentioned--you can always find out if they are into you by just approaching. In general this is a good strategy--take actions that elicit IOIs (or signs of disinterest). For example. physical touch, leaning in to talk in her ear, etc.

However, I disagree with the idea that you should not look for IOIs-- one of the most cringeworthy thing I see from "amateurs" is continuing to hit on girls who are obviously not interested. It doesn't increase your odds, and makes you look like a creep to others who are noticing which could actually hurt your chances with other girls at the venue.

IOIs ARE important to spot.

And finally, to actually answer your question, one of the harder to spot but once you pay attention to it very obvious IOIs is "liking negatives"

What I mean is--if you say something self deprecating or point out a negative of yours, and she spins it as a positive-- For example. you saying you were a huge nerd in high school and her saying "I like nerds".

Other similar ones include bragging, and being very agreeable.

In terms of IOIs before you even approach/talk to her, there are really two main ones:

eye contact/smiles (which you can elicit by making it with her and seeing if she smiles)

proximity (she just "happens" to be close to you at the venue)

Dominus-Prime- · 2020-06-10T04:48:25+00:00

The fuck is an IOI?

Xazax310 · 2020-06-09T13:58:06+00:00

IoI's are everywhere the hardest to spot are the one's when you're not actively talking to a women. You see her sitting a table or walk past each other etc. (eye contact, her checking you out, playing with her hair)

But as others said the best IoI is just ask her out on a date. That's your best one. if it's a yes guess what? she likes you. If its a not well then she other things going on in her life or she's not interested in you. Move on.

2020-06-09T15:54:52+00:00

All IOIs do for me is determine whether I'll do a hard or soft approach. A hard approach is more straightforward, I've assumed shes attracted and wanted me to come talk to her, I can do little to no wrong in these interactions. Soft approach is more indirect I go in to check her temperature, I look to the the environment to create a reason for us to speak. I try to make things feel as natural as possible. Based on her reaction the soft approach can become more straightforward and intentional or I terminate the interaction.

In my mind i made this up idk if this is like an established approach method. Furthermore, I have times where im not really focused on women. In this times I only look for IOIs - I don't feel like wasting my time or putting in much effort. But even then you may misread some IOIs, but for me I look at eye contact, proximity, and body orientation.

Eye contact is the hardest to read. They can look in your direction but looking at someone or something else. Or they may like your shirt or hat and not be interested in you per se.

Proximity is something you can control in most situations and is probably what I use the most. If I think she's interested I'll move closer and see how much space she gives me, how long she lingers in my space etc. For instance I was at the car wash (not sure if you're familiar with autobell) but i was standing outside waiting for my car and the girl came outside and sat on the bench. I saw her steal a few glances, so I sat down next to her and she actually started conversation with me making a comment about the working running back and forth.

Title	What are the hardest IOIs to spot? What do they mean and how accurate are they?
Author	goldenboyr420
Upvotes	7
Comments	11
Date	June 9, 2020 9:13 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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