So I was at the beach surfing this morning, but I stuck around a little longer because usually there's a few hot women in bikinis. At first I just read a book, and there was some people playing volleyball and a lot of teenage girls that were too young for me so I left and went to a pier a few miles north where it's usually a bit more crowded.

I only put enough money in the parking meter for 30 minutes because I told myself I'll just try and approach maybe one girl and then just leave. So I walk on the pier and see on the beach a bunch of the same- teenage girls and they were all in groups of 3 or more. But there was one girl was sitting alone so I forced myself to walk down there since it was the only opportunity in the allotted time. Every moment that passed I just imagined a large clock ticking down to zero. At first I just walked by to see if she had a wedding ring on, which she didn't. Then she was playing on her phone so I didn't want to bug her and fight for her attention. She was also kind of pale so I kind of lost interest. Then I just tried to psych myself up - what's the worst that could happen, probably a polite rejection, but if you don't try anything it could be a missed opportunity for something more down the road. Some girls can be very cold-hearted and rude with rejections so I was really hoping it wouldn't be that. Finally, she put down her phone and I approached her. I just said something stupid like "wow what a beautiful girl. how is it possible you are all alone at the beach?"

She agreed to let me sit down and chat a bit next to her, and she was actually pretty nice. We just did small talk and she told me where she worked. I didn't try to get her number cuz usually women don't like to give their number to strangers or they just block the number a couple days later so I didn't really want to deal with that. She said she worked at a bar near the beach and she said she hoped to see me there so I'm going to try and talk to her again that way maybe in a few days or a week.

The last time I cold approached someone she was only 17 so I just politely declined and apologized and left. That was over 3 months ago before the covid-19 outbreak. Other than that it's just been trying to manage through dating apps where you're reminded again and again women have the upper hand.

In conclusion, I kept beating myself up for not trying to approach women lately, and once I gave it a shot it actually worked out so I'm glad I attempted it. Most times they will just give you a polite no. They aren't going to call the police or anything, unless you try and grope them or something. So if you're wondering whether it's worth the effort I think it is.