Lurker here.
TLDR; I'm romantically interested in this girl I've know for a few months. I'm going to tell her that I no longer wish to be her friend.
Some background:
20, virgin, kiss virgin. You name it. Beta as it gets. The type to buy you flowers and balloons for your birthday type of beta. These acts were a result for my demand to be loved. I always wanted to be loved and viewed romantically by a woman, just like the moves ;)
Upon discovering TRP, it has opened my eyes. Everything I've been told was a lie. I then began to apply TRP to all of my relations, not just the romantic ones. (Try it, it literally works with anything).
I met this girl in college, she was attractive to me (7/10), so I befriended her just like Beta me would normally do. I never wanted to envision woman for sex, I was so against it until TRP. I then realized.
What can she offer me?
Did I really want to be her emotional tampon? I've been doing that for most of my life? I have too many women in my life that are not romantically interested in me in any way shape or form. I don't have space for that anymore.
I don't want to be her friend. I don't want her to be mine. What I want is romance. Slight intimacy. Friendship and romance cannot coexist.
She has to go. Does she deserve an explanation? Sure. If only I was honest at the beginning of the "friendship". There is nothing I have to lose
TRP has taught me so much, and I am thankful. If it wasn't for TRP, I would not be able to do what I am doing.
What I've learned for TRP/Lurking:
Woman are the gatekeepers of sex. Men are the gatekeepers of commitment.
Just because someone writes you, doesn't mean your obligated to respond. (I wish I can remember the genius who wrote this. You know who you are fellow redditor
Create, maintain, demolish relations.
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Great reads , ^ I highly recommend you guys take a look.
Wish me luck brothers, I will keep you posted.
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