Whats your guys perspective about girls? a GF is a must have in life? i feel like im not good enough bc basially no one likes me.

hoready · 2020-09-14T23:13:52+00:00

Don't compare yourself to other people. For life to get better, you need to celebrate when you make progress in comparison to where you started. Otherwise you'll never have the motivation to improve at anything.

That might sound like a load of crap, but I can assure you that all the things you mentioned are skills you can learn and practice. You're 19, you have a ton of time bro. Make sure you're taking good care of your appearance and putting yourself out there socially.

2020-09-14T23:39:38+00:00

sometimes i just wish i could be someone else.

Make it so.

You'll have tons of girls interested in you if you got to a foreign country where you're no longer common (i.e. you'll be exotic to them). That said, you still have to be a friendly and interesting and decent person, but the ice will be broken by mere virtue of your being from somewhere far-far-away.

cyrusol · 2020-09-14T23:58:02+00:00

29M here.

Couple envy was real for me in the past but the more I think about it the less I want a relationship with anyone. I'm completely fine/happy with being alone or seeing women casually and even friends just rarely. It's actually that the more time I spend with people (friends and partners alike) the less "stable" or functioning I become and the more alone the more calm and relaxed and genuinely happy I am. Maybe that means I just didn't find the right people yet but it is what it is.

what do girls want?

Above all else? A man that makes them feel anything. Positive emotions are better than negative ones but negative emotions are better than none. Nothing is such a big a turn-off like a guy that makes them feel neutral/nothing/bored.

Now the question is how do you make people feel something? That would probably require a book to list it in its entirety but also is as trivial as common sense. If you have humor they will be enjoyed. If you're intimidating they'll fear you. If you're daring they'll be excited or creeped out - depends on the situation and the people involved. If you're big and muscular but protective they will feel safe. If your home is clean they will feel comfortable etc. etc.

where i live dating inst allowed, (iraq)

What? How does a prohibition on dating work?

Regarding your lack of friends and self-worth - this may be hard to hear but you're the only person that can change both. Nobody else can do it for you. It's a mindset thing.

I can fully understand that a wartorn country isn't the best place to live and probably leads to a lot more depression and suicide than anyone would like to admit. So if possible perhaps consider migration. A new environment often leads to a complete change in how you see the world and your place in this world. For a friend of mine moving to Netherlands was the solution to his drug addiction. For multiple friends moving just to another city meant a three times higher salary. Yet another friend kickstarted his life as a musician by moving to South Korea.

Therocksays2020 · 2020-09-14T21:55:06+00:00

Your focus is too much on others and not yourself. When you look at other guys too much it can bring you down. Focus on your positive qualities and find women with like interest. I wish you the best!

2020-09-15T01:28:17+00:00

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excentrik-art · 2020-09-14T22:16:37+00:00

Your main issue is ........ None. You are 19, of course you dont have much experience.

If I painted for a year, I would compare myself to a painter who also painted for a year, not to a painter who paints decades. Yes, even the one who paints for a year might be better, then study the differences. Maybe his familly paints and he already knows the basics from them. Dont let envy and bad mood ruin what you like. Envy and bad mood will last minutes, days... But your passions and hobbies will be with you your whole life, and every second you spend doing what you like, is a second noone will take from you. Every second in a bad mood or envy is a second wasted.

I know you wont believe me, but you are absolutely fine the way you are. I know you see a lot of room for improvement, but that is ok, you are 19. I am 30 and I still see plenty of mistakes. And plenty of younger people are more successful and all. But I know things that they dont know. They have money, I learned how to pick up girls, date them and have great life together. They have luxury cars and houses but will never have good relationship with their wives and children.

It is about priorities. Find out what you like and keep improving.

My tips for online dating - NO SELFIES!!! It makes you look like you have no friends and hobbies. If you have no friends and hobbies - get some. Search yourself for things/activities/hobbies/sports or anything you can say - I can do this every day - and just do it every day. Meet people who also do it frequently. Get to know them. Make them your friends. Have them make some funny pictures of you. Now you have a chance in online dating

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