How do you get in the mindset to initiate?

IBeSomebooty · 2020-09-18T14:09:09+00:00

Remember you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

SO if you DONT TRY. You'll just go by. let's say you live to 65.

23,725 days you'll have lived. but how many have gone by?

8,000? 10,000? 12,000? 15,000? How many of those days are you enjoying to its fullest potential? if not many, you have to try to change that, if you just let them go by, they will.

cowvin26 · 2020-09-18T19:24:19+00:00

Okay so your first question is approach anxiety and how to overcome it. From what I've come to understand through experience and listening to other's experiences, is that you'll never completely be able to overcome it. Emotions cannot be reasoned with or bargained with. No amount of thinking or strategy planning will defeat your fears.

However, you can learn to accept this anxiety and live with it. Maybe even come to enjoy it. How do you think adrenaline junkies get their fix? They like the fear. Get yourself warmed up if you're feeling off your game by just chatting up some random strangers. Tell a dude you like his mustache. Talk to a girl you're not even interested in. Build yourself up a bit. Here's a final tip, opening is the easy part. It gets a lot harder from there.

Your second question is about dancefloor game and honestly, I kind of suck at it. There is a lot of useful advise out there. So go read up. Just don't think that it's any easier than cold approaching. Both have their disadvantages.

kettlebell_workout · 2020-09-18T13:47:35+00:00

It is not for your own pleasure nor for hers.

Just do what needs to be done.

You go to work, cause you have to and you approach her, cause you have to.

oiiOllie · 2020-09-18T16:44:48+00:00

Bro it’s a game so you’ve got to trick yourself to approach, the anxiety will always be there but trick yourself to approach, find an excuse bro try as hard as you can to find an excuse to open, if it’s so hard open notes on your phone and create scenarios in your mind eg, supermarket... girl with 2 friends, how do I open her up and start a convo. Write down the key things you need to say at the beginning, the middle and the closing where you get her number or whatever. plan it so that when it happens again you’re prepared. just know what you’re going to say before you say it that way it can become internalized. For me at a party I usually walk up to a group of girls and introduce myself and my friends and get the girls names then start cracking jokes and telling stories after that I go for the one I like , if it’s so hard to strike a conversation just imagine and treat the girl like she’s one of your male friends or sister. Forget that she’s someone you’re attracted try hard to forget and she’ll do the chasing

nordicdatingmentor · 2020-09-18T23:31:12+00:00

Warm up to begin with. Also, realize that your fear is partly biological. It stems from a time when the stakes were higher. Ignore it.

tripmepls · 2020-09-19T17:18:35+00:00

Walk up to them and initiate a conversation about something non personal, almost like an old person chatting about an appliance. Drop bait about yourself as the conversation progresses so that’ll ask you a personal question. Don’t be the first to ask a personal question

Title	How do you get in the mindset to initiate?
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Date	September 18, 2020 1:38 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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