Whenever I get rejected I always revert back to thinking of my ex

yurifca · 2020-10-06T23:07:37+00:00

Stop focusing on rejection.

Focus on the fact that you took your shot and be proud of it. Say it loud: i'm glad I tried because I'm one rejection closer to a fine date in the future. Every approach is a little tough, we all know how hard can it be to talk to a beautiful girl you never saw out of nothing. You are fighting your fights, don't give up

putcoolusernamehere · 2020-10-06T23:02:42+00:00

The more you get rejected, the less you care. In fact, I've pretty much forgotten most of my rejections/flakes/numbers that didn't respond, and I care a lot more about the girls who I didn't approach, or even worse, the ones I had a great conversation with but didn't go for the number. Those are the ones that keep me up at night.

FirstCanadian · 2020-10-07T05:04:32+00:00

Na, u need to look at rejection as a game. The only way you get better is practice, and you need to study your interaction.

Winners win, and losers sit on their past glories.

Panoslifeshift · 2020-10-07T05:36:23+00:00

I know that feeling. Dating can be super frustrating. Your brain seeks comfort so it's super natural to want to go back to what is familiar. Maybe take some time out from it all. Have a cooling off period where you spend time with yourself again. If your trying to get a girl a lot this can put girls off. Then after a couple of months go out and smash it. Get rejected even more then you are now. In other words take more action and just learn from every rejection look at it like playing tennis. You can expect to step on the court and be amazing right away. Just you learn and adjust. It's the same with chatting to girls.

CandyAppleLady14 · 2020-10-06T22:49:07+00:00

Absolutely! Its totally normal to be nostalgic about the past. But try to remind yourself that there is something better coming up for you.

the-great-jd · 2020-10-07T02:00:45+00:00

I can very much relate. I recently was in such a phase too. You're not alone with this, its really not uncommon to get vulnerable again when getting to know someone and opening your heart. It's usually nothing that stays for long. I wrote a lot of my thoughts down, remembered that it's part of life. Began focusing on my projects I quickly got out of it. Yurifca is also right, you shouldn't focus on this dumb concept called rejection. As someone else said on this subreddit: blame it on the randomness of the universe if something doesn' t work out, most of the time it is not your fault . Either there is a connection - or not. There are so many others out, who better fit to you. At the point where you are now, it is only a matter of time until you will meet someone who's right for you. Just don't ever worry about it too much and aproach her. If place and time are right being your best self is enough.

farcry1449 · 2020-10-06T22:22:37+00:00

yeah, i feel same 🤣

GunMoss · 2020-10-07T00:52:48+00:00

Yo this was totally me for the last 2 or so months. The best and most important piece of advice anybody told me was that it gets better with time. Just keep pushing onward and resist that temptation to hit them up again!

kalz44 · 2020-10-07T02:43:08+00:00

I've felt this way before, you may need to focus on processing your breakup because you're probably projecting the loneliness you feel (among other things) to other women.

letsridetoglory · 2020-10-07T08:53:28+00:00

everyone feels like this but you gotta plow through it bud

memes2001 · 2020-10-07T06:50:16+00:00

My ex broke up with me just over 2 months ago, sums up my feelings perfectly.

charm33 · 2020-10-07T06:53:09+00:00

Same!

DonSpiro92 · 2020-10-07T07:45:04+00:00

Think for rejection as blessing! You will be pleased to know that they saved your time! What if they get to know you? What if after one year she is done with you? This year can't bring back this year! Be thankful for every rejection. This is the positive site of rejection for me. If you are still going out. You are doing well. Keep going, you will find her! I believe in you

Title	Whenever I get rejected I always revert back to thinking of my ex
Author	Taurusamazing92
Upvotes	138
Comments	19
Date	October 6, 2020 8:40 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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