Learning the game and doing cold approaches was a wonderful experience and I enjoyed the process. I have had everything from day game; same-day lay, relationship, taking home on the first date... After all these days, I learned a few important kinds of stuff which are grooming, speaking skills, social circle, body language, use of canned lines, and finally empathy.

I changed my hairstyle a bit recently and in the last 2 weeks, I had 3 girls. I am a dark brown guy living in Germany and like most of the brown person I have hard times in dating. But after I changed my hairstyle somehow I pick up two girls and one girl from my social circle asked me out. All these girls are from Europe and they think I am a badass, thanks to my new hairstyle because the girls used to think I am too nice to date.

I joined improv classes and public speaking classes and it boosted my confidence to talk politely and calmly and to handle tough situations. From there I made tons of friends and this is what I think is the most important part of the game.

Although I have trouble with girls I never had trouble making friends. I am always surrounded by friends and I made tons of friends in the last few months. I used to organize a house party, meetings in bars, etc. People love me for these. I noticed once you have such caliber girls really notice that and they chase you. I felt really weird because I was always going out in the street to find a girl and getting rejected thousands of times and the same me was being chased by some pretty girls in the social circle. I have noticed most of the guys in the pickup community do not invest time in making friends circle. My suggestion is to first make friends, pickup and girls will be a bi-product. Once you have a big social circle life will be easier for you.

I learned about body language and human psychology by reading books (I am a nerd and learned everything about the game by reading books). Big smiley face, charming eye contact (not a robotic one) is sexy as fuck. I went to date didn't talk much and I listened and while telling my stories I always maintained a smiley face and good eye contact. A few hours later she took me home. I did not use any gamey stuff.

Try not to use canned pickup lines. Look man, all the girls know about pickup stuff and lines and they exactly know what we are doing in the shopping mall or street. If youtube has helped you to find about the game, guess what, the girls found it too!! The girls know everything about pick up!! Too many of my friends and date said "these pickup guys are so funny that they think we don't know about them and they use shitty pickup lines like 'you look cute but in a touristy way', 'you are cute but I am not sure if you are crazy'." It was like a big blow to my face because I used the same lines! Then I stopped wasting my time and came up with situational and non-compliments statements. Compliments and being nice to someone puts them under pressure and they run away even they like you. When I started treating them just as a normal human like me things were so much better. I really suggest not to use compliments and trying to chase by using lines that are taught to millions of people on the internet.

Finally empathy. If a girl tells you "we can be friends" I saw a lot of guys overreact and say "I can never be friends with you" ( a line learned on the internet LOL). But when I started saying "okay no problem we can be friends" and I meant it life was much easier. Because, as I said, having friends is awesome!!! It has happened 2 times the girl said well I have a boyfriend and we can be only friends. I said okay and I really meant it and we were talking like friends and unexpectedly she was making out with me and rubbing her hand on my privates a few hours later. Then I realized something, sometimes they feel too much pressure, and it's my job to take off the pressure. My suggestion is to have an open mind if the girl says we can be friends and if you think she has a cool personality make friends with her. I have so many friends from the cold approach and guess what they have cute friends with whom I got introduced to. Treating them as a real person than the mindset to 'pick them up' makes the work easy for both parties.

Anyway, guys thanks for reading and being a part of the journey of frustration, success, and love.