Is it OK to flirt with friends of a girl who friend zoned me?

2020-10-20T12:07:29+00:00

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2020-10-19T20:25:37+00:00

Why not? If she is a friend she should certainly be happy that you find someone compatible.

whip-in-hand1 · 2020-10-19T20:24:44+00:00

It’s not creepy, but I’m about 99% certain that the girl who friendzoned you will MAKE SURE that this new girl knows that you had a crush on her first. I’m not entirely sure why it happens that way, but it has almost always happened that way for me. And that can result in the new girl feeling like she’s the “second choice” and it won’t work out .

ourfunlittlesecret69 · 2020-10-19T20:53:11+00:00

Go for it. You're a man, you're programmed to want women. The girl that zoned you missed her chance, you've moved on because you're a strong confident man and you don't give a shit. Beware though - if you get zoned twice then it's game over. So brush up on your skills before going after number 2.

Like /u/whip-in-hand1 said - word gets around, so you need to come at this new chick from a completely different angle. If you came on too strong, then reel it back a bit, if you didn't come of as mysterious now is your chance, girl 1 will have spilled the beans on why you were a turn off, you need to anticipate that and prove to girl 2 that she was wrong. If you can frame it like you were using 1 to get to 2 then that's a double whammy because 1 will get jealous and will end up liking you more.

The fact that you got zoned means there are areas for improvement though, start there. Think about what you did that turned her off. Did you come on too strong? Did you fail to show value and attainability? Did you invest too much relatively?

Also - if you get the chick and you do a good job, you'll drag in the friend who zoned you "Huh, if my friend likes him then maybe he's not so bad after all." Plus, chicks talk! If you nail her and nail her good - eventually her friends will wonder what all the fuss is about.

OrzhovPalatine · 2020-10-20T03:58:01+00:00

Actually ought to do it anyways. Keep in mind though that you start off 2 cars behind because girls talk and her friends likely know she friendzoned you and it doesnt do you many favors when you talk to them.

housebird350 · 2020-10-19T21:26:51+00:00

Yes, its perfectly ok.

TheMailmanic · 2020-10-19T21:40:56+00:00

Hell yes. Scorched earth all the way.

tb12871287 · 2020-10-20T00:21:25+00:00

1 million percent Why would u even ask this Go make that chick regret friend zoning u

tibles20 · 2020-10-20T10:15:35+00:00

Yes if you really like her

Title	Is it OK to flirt with friends of a girl who friend zoned me?
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Date	October 19, 2020 8:19 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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