If you’re waiting until you’re the 'best version of yourself' before you set up an online dating profile, you’ll likely never create one.

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More often than not, when you claim you're waiting to achieve certain self-improvement milestones before you get yourself out there, you're masking the fact that you are deathly afraid of rejection.

If this is the case, let me tell you this:

The difference between a man who is average with women and a 'ladies man' is that the 'ladies man' has far more experience speaking to women.

As a result, he’s also been rejected by far more women than Mr Average (Mr Average barely ever approaches any women; fewer attempts = fewer failures.)

Experiencing rejection breeds strength. Strength breeds confidence. Confidence breeds better management of future rejection.

Sure, a slimmer waistline and a Ralph Lauren T-shirt might make a small impact on your likability with women, but nothing beats the experience of trying, failing, adapting and trying again.

There are thousands of women out there.

Start today, fail fast, fail hard and keep pushing forward.

Still not convinced? Fine, start losing some weight/working out (whatever it is that you claim is holding you back) in conjunction with setting up a dating profile.

You can always update your pictures later down the track.

I’ll leave you with this: A man with an average body and vast experience speaking to women has a far better success rate than a man with a six-pack and no clue.

Get out there.

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If you are being rejected and it's messing you up, here is a good resource for you:

How to move on after she ghosts you