HOW DO I?

Therocksays2020 · 2021-02-16T07:39:51+00:00

Have you considered doing something she wants to do. Maybe make it fun. Plan out a role play.

In the moment won’t be everyone’s cup of tea

anonimo42 · 2021-02-16T10:04:30+00:00

Honestly don’t think you can. Find someone that’s super into you and is on the same page as you in regards to “adventure”.

2021-02-16T10:39:03+00:00

Don’t talk about it , just do it ,, if she refused then it’s not meant to be ,, if she is in, then good for u,, I see, some stuff u just need to explore it without over thinking it

nbaynerd · 2021-02-16T08:18:59+00:00

Maybe try sky diving lessons or go rock climbing without a safety harness?

YesImTheAsshole_ta · 2021-02-16T10:57:44+00:00

Not sure. But if you’re a real kinky MF, be up front about that shit from day 1.... well maybe not day 1 but you know what I mean. Let her know how it works and be ready to cut ties if she can’t satisfy you. Much easier to do if you haven’t invested 2 years. But the fact that you make it clear that you aren’t going to give her more attention unless she satisfies what you crave, is more often than not exactly the type of thing that will make her want to do it. Negotiating sexual stuff tends to have a very counterproductive and unnatural effect on the relationship.

In your situation, if you’re not already on point physically, mentally, socially, career/education... get there. If you can’t get there tomorrow, get start making progress. Sex ain’t always about the bedroom for women, our dumb asses get turned on from lingerie and bikinis and short skirts, women get wet from a guy that’s dressed well in a suit or something else that communicates power in the world. If you’ve never been able to compare oral sex from the same girl before and after getting a new car, condo, or job title, you should and you would know what I mean. You don’t have to become James Bond or Harvey Spector, just become a better version of you, she will notice and so will other girls. Ever so fucking subtly start giving her less attention and other girls, even platonically, more attention. You can do this within the respect of a relationship. You stepped up your game for her benefit (should be for you primarily), now she needs to step up her game to satisfy you. Tell her what you want, if she gives it to you a little, give her a little more attention. If she gives it to you a lot, reward her with a lot more attention. If she can’t handle a lot more attention without reverting back to her old ways, adjust accordingly. If she accuses you of cheating at anytime, it’s bullshit. You wouldn’t be needing to empty your balls with her if you were balls deep in Lauren from the gym earlier today, no you’d be ready bed... tell her that in nicer words.

revente · 2021-02-16T07:44:41+00:00

This is harsh but you cannot negotiate attraction. The only possible way is to get hotter to the point she's afraid that if she won't do that, some other girl will.

coolforcatsmp3 · 2021-02-16T12:47:52+00:00

You can’t “get” her to be more adventures, but here’s a few things you can try:

Consider her wants and needs. Is she satisfied with your sex life? Do you think she wants to be more adventurous with you? You’re a team experiencing sex together, so her enthusiasm is vital.

2) Think about what this would mean for you, her, your mutual pleasure, and your relationship. What does “being more adventurous” mean to you? Could it mean additional time, stress, or physically/emotionally/mentally labour for you, her, or both?

3) Help her relax by taking the pressure off. This relates to 1 & 2 as well. Think these things through with empathy and respect before asking, and when you do ask, make sure she feels comfortable saying no, but assure her that you will approach it as a team. This may mean giving her a massage before or after adventurous sex, or doing more chores so she has extra time to take a shower and get ready, and always allowing her to back out without disappointment or guilt.

Again, you can’t “get” her to be more adventurous, but you can create an environment where she feels comfortable, supported, and appreciated, which may lead to her being more open to new things.

Title	HOW DO I?
Author	Oakley1990
Upvotes	8
Comments	26
Date	February 16, 2021 7:16 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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