Tips on how to improve speaking without filler words such as “like, um, you know”

Therocksays2020 · 2021-04-16T05:32:30+00:00

Practice in front of a mirror. Don’t be afraid to just pause. I will talk pause and then finish my thoughts with people instead of using the filter.

whatinthehailya · 2021-04-16T05:54:53+00:00

^{^{^{^}}} I came here to say that.

This used to be one of my biggest issues. Or I would draw out words horribly and it made me not want to speak at all. It’s okay to take a beat/breath while you form what you’re going to say. It also shows that you’re listening and receiving rather than waiting to respond.

nekouwau · 2021-04-16T07:40:02+00:00

Oh I know a someone who uses filler words all the time. I always tease him about that and say to him something along the lines of

"Don't say "like, ehm, you know".

That way I try to let him correct himself and paraphrase his sentence again and I have the impression that he got significantly better with expressing himself over the time :)

(Also it's cute to listen to him when he's correcting himself again ehem)

So my tip would be that in your casual conversations you should let someone always stop you and ask once again what you meant and try to paraphrase it without the filler words.

Other tips would be that you could try to speak infront of a mirror (like in sims :D) to improve your speaking ability or maybe record yourself with a voice recorder and listen to yourself how you speak. Maybe there are certain phrases where you use filler words a lot, so you can try to avoid or practice these phrases.

Good Luck.

Captain_w00t · 2021-04-16T09:28:08+00:00

when I learned to be a radio-speaker, they suggested me to register my voice simulating a radio-session, then re-listen and see what's going wrong.

try to talk endlessy, putting words one after another. the first times you'll feel dumb and awkward (especially when you're alone in front of a mic).

do this over and over until you see improvements.

it helped me a lot during university exams and job interviews too, because it looks like you're so smooth that you're totally in control about what you're saying (even if you aren't saying anything in particular).

TweetieWinter · 2021-04-16T19:45:09+00:00

I don't use any filler words when I speak my mother tongue. I have learnt English, but my command over English isn't as good as on my native language. I tend to use a lot of fillers when I am speaking to someone in English. This doesn't happen when I speak my mother tongue.

NateHate1402 · 2021-04-16T20:46:45+00:00

I was lucky in this regard because for some reason when I decided I didn’t want to use filler words anymore I could just do it without effort, very strange but helpful.

The good thing about removing filler words is you accidentally create suspense because sometimes you pause for a few seconds in the middle of a sentence.

Pale_Occasion_2447 · 2021-04-20T01:08:55+00:00

My advice would be don't get rid of these fillers fully, learn how to use them to your advantage. They can be used in such a manner that the listener will listen you even more willingly and with more caution to what you say/ seem more interested.

Ivy_rocky · 2021-11-29T18:31:22+00:00

I've found that being aware is step 1 - so knowing how many filler words I'm using and in what context I'm using it. And then once I'm aware, I can make more conscious effort to slowdown or pause more. I've been looking for tools to use to help me keep track of this and improve and recently found speechtitan.com. I'm going to try it out as I think it'll definitely help.

Title	Tips on how to improve speaking without filler words such as “like, um, you know”
Author	NYRCRT12345
Upvotes	10
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Date	April 16, 2021 12:54 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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