I can’t be vulnerable around people, especially women

SweelFor- · 2024-04-01T14:57:34+00:00

I recommend therapy

AssistTemporary8422 · 2024-04-01T07:23:42+00:00

Why do you feel gross and weird about opening up? Any thoughts or beliefs come to mind?

AllMyPillsRojo · 2024-04-01T05:32:51+00:00

Well, the first thing I'd like to say is it's a good thing that you have this level of self-awareness AND that you know the importance of vulnerability in relationships with women and anybody for that matter.

The thing about vulnerability is that it is something you will not be comfortable with until you are comfortable with yourself. This is why you feel "weird and gross" after you share something personal (be it an emotion, a thought, and experience, etc...)

You have to come to terms with who you are.

For example maybe you're an introvert geek. Guess what? That's who you are and there's absolutely nothing you can do to change that.... nor should you!

You accept it. It's all you can do. And like it or not...the introvert geek lifestyle is the lifestyle that will make you happy. (Again this is just an example.)

guppyhunter7777 · 2024-04-01T12:34:51+00:00

Being unsure or cautious about your emotional vulnerabilities is called a natural defense mechanism. Do not underestimate it. Is letting you know That the people around you have not earned that level of trust.

uberv1ncent · 2024-04-01T05:11:37+00:00

That's the right way to go buddy.

If the person, woman or not, cannot make you feel like you can be vulnerable with them then it's not worth being vulnerable with them.

We romanticize vulnerability but there were solid reasons why people weren't as vulnerable with each other before. To be vulnerable is to risk being hurt, rejected, and influenced. You really want to be vulnerable with people who truly has your best interest in mind, not their own projection of what's best for you.

That requires maturity and painful realization that humans, maybe your best friends in high school or even your own parents, can tacitly want to see you fail and fall back to who you were.

So choose wisely my friend.

xvszero · 2024-04-01T04:15:52+00:00

Fake it till you make it.

Title	I can’t be vulnerable around people, especially women
Author	No_Entertainer_5928
Upvotes	10
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Date	April 1, 2024 2:17 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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