Good morning everyone!

I discovered the red pill when I was 17. I had mild success with women ( I was 17 so it was normal) but felt compelled to try and do everything in my power to make every women fall in love with me. I had self esteem issues and I was using validation from women as a way to feel good about myself. I would spend hours and hours watching videos and "learning." Ultimately I ended up finding a partner and really haven't thought about red pill recently since my breakup.

Red pill had nothing to do with my romantic success, and when i was 20 I realized how stupid it all was. I actually have a friend that is deeply into this stuff, and its insane how off-putting it is to everyone, and how obvious it is also that these people are not mentally well. Anyways, the point of this post was to give a little bit of advice that 17 year old me would have greatly benefitted from.

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  1. I know this is cliche, but it is really okay if not everybody likes you. There is NOTHING you can do to get someone to like you. Its very human that every interaction is not going to go our way (socially and romantically.)

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  1. You don't always need to intellectualize a reason for a social interaction not working out and not everything needs to be a learning experience. Sometimes its ok to just chalk it up to incompatibility and move on.

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  1. Please do not make dating the focus of your life. There are so many cool things to do with your time, and although everybody wants to find a cool partner, there are generally VERY FEW things that actually help. Its ok to talk to women/men you like. It is okay to try a dating app and go on bad dates. It is okay to have awkward conversations at the bar. These are all very HUMAN things, and try not to criticize yourself when things don't go well.

  2. Lastly, try to get out more and meet people as friends. Not everything needs to be with the goal of finding love. I really enjoy meeting new people just for the sake of meeting people. Its okay to take up space and go read at a coffee shop, or go do something new alone. Its also okay to be anxious about these things and still do them anyway. Don't let your fears stop you from living your life.