Failed approaches

ROBYoutube · 2024-04-29T17:13:53+00:00

You seem really focussed on 'doing pickup'. Like talk a bit, get socials, message to build rapport for a date or whatever.

I'd suggest just try and have fun with people who like the same bands you do and forget all that shit for a while. I think you'd benefit from that.

Hawadleh · 2024-04-29T17:02:46+00:00

You are over thinking it bro. It’s very common it does not go your way all the time focus on having fun and things will fall out

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-04-29T17:35:08+00:00

The more you cold approach, the more u discourage yourself off of failed attempts and the worse you get and the cycle repeats.

If you keep practicing free throws without applying the correct technique, practice will not make you better.

The right baseline technique is indifference. (Being neutral, to not care.)This doesn't mean don't care about the human, it means don't care about the girls beauty or the outcome of the interaction. This mindset automatically calms your demeanor and sets the right vibe, it gets rid of that internal "giddiness" that makes a girl feel like a deer in headlights.

You shouldn't even be going out of your way to approach a girl just because she's cute...that's automatically validating her just for her looks. Naturally crossing paths with someone that might be interesting to you is the way to go. A good way to start is by making female acquaintances at activity groups or volunteer projects so you can find someone that is actually interesting to you, this way you can "approach" someone u already familiar with carry that same vibe over to random cold approach.

Silverthrone921 · 2024-04-30T01:06:39+00:00

There's not enough context here. Are you good looking, are you nervous talking to them, maybe you're talking to them at the wrong place/time, ...

atomant88 · 2024-05-01T13:38:52+00:00

i think this is a venue issue my dude. you can def make approaches at a concert, but i wouldnt go to a concert soloely to make approaches. go to the bar solely with the intent of making approaches, make 20-30. see what your success rate is. do that at least once a week. see how strong your game really is. you cant learn anything from 2 approaches.

make 60-90 over the course of a weekend. then you'll see where you really stand. and it will become second nature. after every night of making approaches do self evaluation. what worked? what didmt? change it up next time. but you have to play the numbers game. you have to gather enough data to be useful

Title	Failed approaches
Author	Dangohne
Upvotes	2
Comments	7
Date	April 29, 2024 4:56 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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