Shit test or just blunt women

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burncushlikewood · 2024-11-11T22:02:30+00:00

If she's bringing up other guys, saying no kissing on the first date she's messing with you. Women that say things like this have intentions, it could either be her lack of attraction, or she may be feeling threatened or jealous. One time I messaged a girl and asked her to come over to my place, she said no and at a party was making fun of me saying, he was trying to get me to come over to his house and I said no, she wasn't interested, in fact she actually got pleasure out of rejecting me. These are the type of women you shouldn't be pursuing, finding the right girl is important in building relationships

SkratchFBA · 2024-11-11T22:16:58+00:00

Get women who are interested in you, women like this are gonna frustrate you and waste your time

Chiiiicckkeeennn · 2024-11-11T22:46:25+00:00

Personally I would’ve spun it told her good luck resisting me. And Flirt off that

PlayaNoir · 2024-11-11T22:49:19+00:00

You want to go out with women that don't talk like this which is disrespectful. Respectful women are out there.

adamandsteveandeve · 2024-11-11T22:45:08+00:00

A woman who’s interested in you won’t behave this way.

NotMyBestEffort · 2024-11-11T22:23:58+00:00

Oh, thank goodness, what if your breath was rank?

alargetire · 2024-11-11T21:57:52+00:00

I don’t have any real answer for you, but I will say that in my anecdotal experience, the overwhelming majority of women (at least the ones with options) will talk about other men they’re talking to, or about their ex-boyfriends (in detail) regardless of if you want to hear it or not. I definitely assumed it’s a natural test to see how you react to them talking about other men, to see how confident you are in yourself. It’s one of my least favorite things about dating 🥲

JustNefariousness625 · 2024-11-11T22:46:02+00:00

Sometimes reciprocal energy is the right answer if I’ve got competition give her some competition it’s petty but the dating game is very pretty unfortunately.

razama · 2024-11-11T21:59:38+00:00

You have it right and basically reply similarly in tone as you did last time (“aww, cute, I love that for you” / “Yeah, I might have matched with him too last night”). Or just quickly move to the next topic and completely ignore it, which will read as neutral because it can seem like you’re hiding being upset but also that they get zero response for such words. Your frame, attitude, and congruent behavior with thoughts/actions matter way more.

It is a bit of a culture shock as you get more advanced and become more successful with dating women, because they will say and do crazy ass shit that is sometimes in the form of self sabotaging on the woman’s part. Tbf, women are only human and we all do this. It’s just not expected (from a man’s POV), and if you’re good, they’ll surprise themselves with how they act because most men fail shit test so they are on the frontier of their experience challenging a man they are interested in.

This is why congruency in thoughts and actions are paramount. Otherwise you’ll self doubt and placate once someone finally finds what gets a reaction from you.

stenberget · 2024-11-11T22:50:01+00:00

Is this going to be your soulmate? Probably not. But even if it will and you’ll marry her do not react to these mind games. If you do react tease her in a dismissive way. When a mf wants pssy that mf ain’t getting any. When a mf don’t want pssy he can’t go nowhere without pssy finding him. Walk in life like you don’t need anything and you’ll get everything. Desperation is so unattractive It’s hard to comprehend. Act like you don’t need her. Because you don’t. That’s a true fact. Who is she? Is she all that? Look yourself in the mirror and understand that she’s lucky to have you. Respect her boundaries and do not push them. If she said no kisses do not give her kisses. But tease her, kiss her mentally. Do the triangle, shift from looking at one eye to the next and then the lips. But do not go for the kiss. Seduce her to the point that she can’t control her self anymore.

epimpstyle · 2024-11-11T23:17:10+00:00

what to say in situations?

Don't bother! Why do you think you have to give the perfect answer because the girl will like you or if you don't give the right answer the girl will say "No! I don't like you because you didn't answer my question correctly" ?

It doesn't matter what you say, but always say something, it's rude to ignore her opinion, if she likes you it's not because you answered previous questions perfectly... so don't bother to know the perfect answer.... it makes no difference.

nordik1 · 2024-11-12T02:21:09+00:00

I actually like women with some wit and fire to them, but i disagree with the guys alluding to this being normal behavior. The dynamic between you two is messed up if she’s saying shit like that. She lacks respect. Hard red flags, especially mentioning the date with another guy. That’s just weird

I’d dodge this chick because the disrespect will only increase

NotLegal69 · 2024-11-11T22:28:01+00:00

Told a chick I did boxing, she proceeded to talk about her ex who was a boxer for 2 hours nonstop, eventually we came back to the hotel we were both staying at, smashed.

pinegap96 · 2024-11-11T23:45:10+00:00

When they start bringing up ex’s, I just tell them that most of my ex’s couldn’t fit my whole cock down their throat because most of the time it didn’t fit. That will either shut them up or they take it as a challenge so win/win either way lol

AnthonyPillarella · 2024-11-12T01:47:06+00:00

Normally the scenarios people bring in these threads aren't actually shit tests...but this one kind of feels like it could be shit test.

Like, I could see this second one being a joke, but with the way she said the first one I'm leaning test.

As to how to answer, generally speaking you should be fun and not overly invested. Not as some kind of tactic or anything, you should genuinely be fun and not overly attached. Your response to the kissing comment did a great job of that.

This second one kind of feels like she's probing for jealousy. The "wrong" response would be jealousy or some kind of "I don't compete" thing. The "correct" one is just to make another joke of it.

"Does it have to be competitive? I, for one, am open to a collaboration."
"Damn, you're having quite the week."

There are plenty of other things you could say, but you get the idea.

That said, if you're finding yourself legitimately compromising on things you want/need/care about, or suspect she's trying to do some gamey bullshit it's probably better to break it off early. Don't actually get caught in some competition lol.

Silent-Echo2040 · 2024-11-12T02:05:07+00:00

Im gonna need another example because situations like THAT don't even warrant a response. Whether or not it's a test or her being blunt, it's just a shitty thing to say. If we matched on a dating site, I already know I'm basically in a competition. I don't need a weird pushy reminder about it.

Sandvicheater · 2024-11-12T04:28:10+00:00

There's light shit testing just to weed out to see if you're a fuck boy just wanting a one night stand vs constant shit testing to see if you're truly "the one"

Danrob91 · 2024-11-12T12:56:42+00:00

Just send her a broccoli emoji, this used to be my go to for situations were there was no 'good' answer, have fun with it mate she's not your wife and there's millions more of her out there.

salutcemoi · 2024-11-11T23:53:58+00:00

I would say “he has already lost”

Dandys3107 · 2024-11-12T06:32:48+00:00

Instead of bowing down to whatever she says, you should read between the lines and realise why she says things like that. If she states that there would be no kissing on first date, you can imagine she already thought about kissing you, which is a good sign, second thing is that she may want some control over your escalation or she wants to play the game where your push through her barriers, which is pretty arousing for many girls. Either way, you should just do your thing, if girl is exercising her control too much, you can simple leave, stating you won't cope with such relation dynamics.

Also, if she states you have a competition, she is probably testing your confidence and checking your current involvement. If you are too engaged in your relation even though it is just a beginning, girl may feel she doesn't need to do anything and she has an upper hand already, which is most likely a turnoff. You should instead keep the tension and remember that you should also the one to qualify girls. And remember that words are just words, actions and decisions are things that really matter.

So in general, treat shit tests like opportunity to spice up your game. Don't treat words too seriously. If girl converts them into real decisions that make you too uncomfortable, you should behave according to your frame.

MorganScott616 · 2024-11-12T08:25:59+00:00

What women say they want and what they actually want are 2 completely different things. She's definitely testing you, and what you should've said was something like. "That's crazy because women always try to kiss ME on the first date." Then you could've thrown in something like "wow I don't want you to let the other guy down, I've got a couple other matches that are up for a date tonight and I'd hate for your new friend to feel left out"

youngyut · 2024-11-12T11:16:32+00:00

Tell her “K” and act nonchalant while working on a backup date.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-11-11T23:01:33+00:00

Those aren't necessarily overt shit tests. This may just be unpolarized flirting.

Women make the same mistake that men do and forget attraction works differently for the opposite gender. Many girls think we are attracted to the same things that they are, which isn't the case; and think that they are flirting.

No kissing on the first date as it’s a turn off”

she might be attracted to sexually disciplined men who withhold and deny them, so she showed that trait

she says out of the blue some guy also just asked her out and that I have competition.

She is attracted to guys she has to compete for, so she displayed abundance.

I hope this makes somewhat logical sense to you.

JackSquirts · 2024-11-12T00:12:38+00:00

It's all the same. Handle it exactly the same. The only difference is how she sorts herself out with her actions. It's up to you to decide if the juice is worth the squeeze.

And, alternatively, she could just being playful and having fun - part shit test, part kinda being a bro. You probably won't figure that out until you go out with her.

My response would be, "Oh fun, I'd say the same, but I don't let any of my girlfriends compete. Everyone gets their own special day with me once a month."

jmoney2788 · 2024-11-12T04:12:32+00:00

shit test, either see it as annoying and give up, look for a girl with higher interest, or see it as an engaging challenge, have fun and overcome it

Elizasol · 2024-11-12T06:49:32+00:00

"Whats his name? He might have asked me out first"

marsfifth · 2024-11-12T10:39:26+00:00

They aren't "special," "the one," or "the prize." Don't put them on a pedestal.

tabouli_tabs · 2024-11-12T03:22:06+00:00

Shit test, you passed

Andrew__IE · 2024-11-12T07:19:08+00:00

I don’t have advice, but I do have a story to share my frustration with you.

At my job, there’s this one girl who liked me. I knew she liked me off rip but I don’t date at work so I kept it cordial. She was always finding excuses to talk to me and anything I ever said was hilarious to her. Whatever I said to her, in any conversation, she held doey eyes with me. I will admit, I thought she was pretty so I flirted with her on occasion and her attraction developed stronger but I never escalated past that point.

Anyways, she ended up becoming a manager in my department so we were going to be working closely together so it had to be kept strictly business now. I remember very early on in her time as manager I gave her a lost wallet, and I swear to god all I said was “Hey, someone left this can you make sure whoever it is gets it back?” and she replied immediately with “Is this for me? You’re giving me your wallet with $5 in it? You bum!” in the most serious tone. I was taken aback! I was simply shocked I just walked away. I didnt laugh, I wasn’t mad, I wasn’t hurt, I was just surprised. In shock. Like wtf does someone do in that situation??

Another time at work, I had two customers to take care and the first customer was having some issues with outdated paperwork that us newer employees weren’t trained on. It was one of those things where it’s so old everyone tells you not to worry about it because you’ll never have to use it.

Welp, this night I did. And I had no idea wtf to do. So I called this same manager up for help because I literally don’t know where to begin. The customer I’m helping is just as confused as me and is frustrated with herself because she thought she set it up so her paperwork was valid, meanwhile the customer behind is growing frustrated because it’s been 5 minutes too long.

My manager arrives and I let her know the whole schpeal: “Hey, her paperwork is coming up as invalid and after glossing over it, I realized it’s the [outdated system we don’t use], I can’t seem to figure it out. Can you take her to your desk and help her sort it out while I help the next customer?”. She responds back with “Seems like you just don’t want to worry about it.” Let me remind you, it’s almost time to go home, these are the last two customers I need to help. I am in no mood to respond to a shit test or clap back to a diss. I just wanna finish this and go home. I called her for help because she’s my manager and that’s what’s supposed to happen. So I said, in the most neutral, most business casual tone I could “I have been dealing with it, can you help her out?” INSTANTLY I could see she got the ick and that her kitty dried up on the spot.

We haven’t spoken more than a “good morning” here or a “this assignment needs to be finished first”, since.

In either of the two instances with her as a manager I don’t know if she thought she was flirting or if she was being bitchy to lose attraction for me because she knew we shouldn’t be flirty now that she was a manager or what. I just found it hilarious that women will always test you in the darndest ways in the most annoying situations.

InstructionAbject763 · 2024-11-12T00:53:49+00:00

To be fair, as a woman, some shit tests are about how spineless men are to get sex

So many men literally lie thru their teeth and will agree with EVERYTHING I say to just get with me

To the point I begin to make fun of the guy by ramping up the ridiculousness of what I say to see how far he goes to agreeing with me to just get it

And then I ghost him if he has no opinions or feelings of his own

If you cannot think of how to honestly respond to that, then don't go out.

You shouldn't be going out with people when some sets up a boundary and you think THATS a shit test.

I shit test guys to mess with them when I feel like their idiots and spineless

Some women just have boundaries and men take them as a shit test. It's wild bruh

Title	Shit test or just blunt women
Author	Dangohne
Upvotes	45
Comments	48
Date	November 11, 2024 9:52 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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