How to separate mind from emotion?

PemBayliss · 2015-08-01T17:18:10+00:00

What you're doing is feeling the same things over and over again, repeatedly. Like playing the same video in your head over and over again. You go back over memories and scenarios, thinking "how could I have done this differently" and "what if I'd said this instead of that, what would have happened" and "if x then y; but I did X then z, and a=b but not if c or d" and so on.

Emotions will pass on through if you feel them and you let them come on in and go on out. But they'll take up residence if you let them -- if you get the same ones out and feel them again and again and again. If you let them live there, they just stay, and you feel them over and over again without letting them go on out.

So what you do is you take your emotions, and you feel them. Give them space to feel for a certain amount of time. Let them come in, you feel them. Then let them go on out.

And don't let them in again. "No, that's done. that's over. I felt it, it was there, now it's done and over with."

If you cannot do that, then you take the thing that causes the feeling, and you mentally "put it on a shelf". You leave it there, until you feel it again, in which case you take it off the shelf, you look at it and then you PUT IT BACK ON THE SHELF and LEAVE IT THERE.

The problem happens when you keep taking it off the shelf. PUT IT BACK on the shelf and LEAVE IT THERE.

It's a discipline. You have to CHOOSE to LEAVE IT. You have to busy yourself with other things that require your attention.

CHOOSE to LEAVE IT.

FoolishWiseGuy · 2015-08-01T16:58:33+00:00

What makes your mind stronger, and more able to control your emotions, is internal discipline and toughness

Questionablechoice · 2015-08-01T17:00:41+00:00

you can grant enlightenment only internal reflection and experience will it be achieved. meditate and reflect on your experiences and analyse it to find the truth and knowledge in the data and emotion.

RBuddDwyer · 2015-08-01T23:21:53+00:00

Read up on Stoicism and REBT/CBT.

jkonrad · 2015-08-02T01:43:54+00:00

You don't control emotions you learn from them. Think of them as the indicator lights on your cars dashboard. When one lights up do you think about the light or what it's telling you?

Vis a vis women, your likely issue is abundance mentality. She was perfect, and you'll never find another like her. You're only half right.

Title	How to separate mind from emotion?
Author	vanwilder1111
Upvotes	5
Comments	7
Date	August 1, 2015 4:46 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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