Women must feel like they can win you over if they put enough effort, but also feel that they can lose you if they don’t measure up to your standards.

Many times guys see a woman, and they think i want to get her number, i want a date with her, i want a kiss, i want sex…

They think like this even when the woman hasn’t done any effort at all to deserve those things. Because yes those things should be seen as rewards that you give to women when they earn it, rather than things that men have to seek or solicit from women no matter if those women earned it or not.

If you feel like you need to close the deal no matter what, when she hasn’t proven to be more different, more accommodating, more supportive, more interesting, more compatible with your values and goals, more ambitious or adventurous than other girls,…

Then you are not acting like a catch with these women, instead you are acting like a desperate suitor who is willing to go for anyone that shows the slightest bit of interest, and that will be a massive red flag for most women causing them to ghost, flake, or reject you.

Women have to earn your number, you can’t just approach and ask for it right away unless you wanna be seen as desperate.

They have to prove through the initial conversation that they deserve a date with you, that they deserve more than your initial superficial attention, sure you like her looks, but that shouldn’t be enough to want a date or to want to see them again.

High value men aren’t that easy to get and women know it. Women are suspicious of any guy who gives away their interest with no effort at all from her part.

Suspicious of any guy who thinks “_she is hot, therefore i want her number or i want to go on a date with her just because she is hot. Couldn’t give a shit about her personality or anything else. A woman being hot is good enough for me to want to go on a date with her_”

Hence why they often throw accusations like “you do this with every girl”, which is just the way they object to guys who show interest in pursuing them with no real genuine justification, other than superficial interest which makes them think the guy just wants sex. And maybe that’s all you want, but unfortunately women will be more likely to reject you if they feel that’s all you want.

And even if the girl also wants sex and that’s it, they still wanna feel like you don’t just have sex with her just because she is hot, they need to feel valued for other things to not feel bad or regret the sex later. They must feel like cinderella, it’s not enough to be pretty, they must feel somewhat unique or special to the guy. That’s their fantasy and that’s how you increase your success rate.