Do what a girl asks and reciprocate her effort. Will increase or decrease interest?

DaygameCode · 2024-06-11T00:01:28+00:00

If she says you never send me texts, what she is actually saying is “i expect you to act like any other guy” and “behave in a way that I consider for a guy to be a good boyfriend”.

And so, you think: “oh well i guess i have to follow the social norm imposed on me and follow her wishes, right or else she will be mad and leave me, right?

Well this logical thinking makes sense in theory sure, but like you said if you do that it’s likely that she will dump you anyway. Women more often than not should be treated like children, hence why they call their men “daddy”.

Would you a dad let his child tell him what to do to avoid a tantrum? Probably not, or else he would be teaching the kid that the kid just has to make a scene to get what she wants and she would be a spoiled child.

So, how would you do it? You have a boundary which is that texting more doesn’t feel right or genuine for you, and you are not gonna compromise on that boundary no matter how much she pressures you.

She would maybe even threaten you by reconsidering whether she wants to be with a guy who doesn’t seem to care about her in her mind because he doesn’t text/call enough, or as much as she wants to.

If you compromise and tell her that you will try to text more, you fail the test because you have just shown her that by throwing a tantrum she can manipulate you into getting what she wants despite the fact that you didn’t actually want to do it.

How? Because you didn’t wanna lose the relationship and you would rather compromise your boundaries just for the sake of maintaining the relationship. How can a woman feel safe around a guy if he is so easy to manipulate when someone puts a little pressure on him to make him do what he doesn’t naturally want to do on his own will?

You are their daddy, you are supposed to be dominant, and stand firm of your boundaries no matter how much pressure there is, but you also don’t wanna make her feel like you don’t love her when you actually do love her or care about her.

So you need to say something like:

You: I understand that you feel hurt because i don’t text as much as you like
Her: Yeah, it makes me feel like i’m not important to you or that you don’t love me. Other guys text their girlfriends all the time. Maybe i need to find someone who will?
You: I care about you, and i value our relationship deeply, but i prefer to have meaningful conversations in person. Texting throughout the day or saying good morning texts isn’t my style and doesn’t feel authentic to me”
Her: Well it’s something that matters to me. if you can’t do this for me, maybe we are not right for each other”
You: I understand and respect your feelings. But i believe our relationship should be based on mutual respect for each other’s preferences. If frequent texting is a deal-breaker for you then we may need to have a serious conversation about our compatibility.
Her: So you are saying you won’t text me even if it means we might break up.
You: “I’m saying that i don’t want to compromise on something which doesn’t feel natural, or genuine to me. I care about you and want to make this work, but not by doing something that feels forced or insincere. If we can’t find a way to understand each other’s communications styles, we may need to think about this seriously”
Her: So you don’t love me?”
You: I do but for me love isn’t about the number of texts, but about the quality of the time and communication we share. I believe love is about supporting you, spending meaningful time together, helping you achieve your goals. I don’t believe love should be measured in the number of texts we send.
Her: “So you’re saying you won’t change this for me?”
You: “I’m saying that I want to be honest and genuine in our relationship. I want to find ways to show my love that feel right for both of us, without either of us feeling forced to act against our nature.“
Her: I’m gonna need sometime to think about this
You: Sure. Do what works best for your needs.

Is there a chance she will break up after a conversation like this? Yes. But there is a big chance she will accept your frame and not break up. Why?

because you are being authentic which can foster trust and respect, you also are asserting your boundaries clearly and respectfully, which shows you respect yourself and your girlfriend, you reassured her that you love her and this demonstration of autonomy can be attractive to your girl because it shows that the you are confident in yourself and value your own needs and preferences. This indicates that you are not willing to compromise your authenticity or change who you are to appease someone else.

And you show non neediness because you are not willing to fall for threats or pressures just to keep a woman around for longer.

Shows you wear the pants, shows that while you love her, you don’t need her, shows your self respect which makes her respect you and potentially admire you since you are showing that you are not willing to compromise your integrity or values to please someone else which shoes a lot of emotional strength and maturity which creates stability, trust and respect.

leftkneenoelbow · 2024-06-09T12:11:23+00:00

You should learn how the girl you like operates, and how you operate. If you don’t like something don’t do it. It’s that simple. Doing something for a girl doesn’t make you a bitch/simp. Going out your way and getting walked over does tho.

Tatleman68 · 2024-06-09T13:14:14+00:00

As long as you don't do it at the expense of your norms and values. Everybody should have boundaries

punktfan · 2024-06-09T09:00:42+00:00

You should always reciprocate, the problems start when you're consistently giving more than she is. Whoever is telling you to never reciprocate is an idiot. Also, reciprocating means matching her effort. If she's just making requests but not giving anything herself, then you granting all of her requests is simping. That is something you shouldn't do. Say no to requests if you don't want to do them.

InstructionAbject763 · 2024-06-10T01:43:51+00:00

Not all women are the same.

I Haye good morning texts. I still want maybe an occasional once a week nice "I still like you" text and a text to plan when we meet up

Some chicks love the daily text

You gotta stop assuming we are all the same hive mind.

Listen to what each individual woman wants

If you're texting too much, and she says so, back off

If you're not texting enough and she asks for more, and you like her, indulge her

TRTGymBro1 · 2024-06-10T10:44:26+00:00

You should always do what women tell you. Be a good boy.

Title	Do what a girl asks and reciprocate her effort. Will increase or decrease interest?
Author	imaginationstation7
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Date	June 9, 2024 7:38 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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