She is a ball of piss and vinegar. Pure vitriol.

We hit the point of absolute no return when she engineered my exclusion from my older's college graduation. And it's still pretty bad. I didn't hear from him over Father's Day for the second year in a row.

I paid for his college. I felt obligated. I make a good salary and he qualified for $0 via FAFSA. He and I disagreed about his major. He wanted premed but didn't want to work for it. He partied. He insisted on biology as premed. I felt he should change majors. He predictably didn't make it into med school. And now that's my fault. That's the rift.

I took the high road whenever I could. I made it a point to specifically include my then stbx in my younger son's high school graduation. The hs sent the tickets to me because he lived with me. In fact, she's a bit of a deadbeat mom. My younger son has lived with me since the separation. She wasn't interested in custody. Nor did I go for child support.

I bought out of alimony. So there's really no reason for my ex and I to ever talk again.

After 20+ years of marriage, I thought my ex's phone number would be burned in for good. But two years later, I have no idea what her number is.

Sad about my son. But I'll take the phone number thing as a small victory.