Woman blatantly abusing boyfriend and no one seems to care... imagine a man doing this in public

Current_Finding_4066 · 2024-07-12T16:40:20+00:00

Naturally no one stepped in to help the guy-

If sexes were reverse 10 white knights and 5 Karens would be competing who would get to save her.

JDMWeeb · 2024-07-12T17:39:22+00:00

This is one of the reasons why I'm terrified of dating. I'm a very sensitive person and a lifelong victim of abuse, especially verbal and emotional.

hottake_toothache · 2024-07-12T19:21:19+00:00

People don't care about men.

RingosTurdFace · 2024-07-12T19:54:57+00:00

A social experiment of the same gets the same result here:

https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/s/BjkCjanisx

EfficientSimplicity · 2024-07-12T22:55:50+00:00

Men need to clamp down on white knights. They’re white knighting for a chance to sniff the puss

Vegetable_Ad1732 · 2024-07-12T17:33:07+00:00

Ah, so this was a real case. Usually these are staged videos to make a point. And it was no S & M thing either. If it was that she would not have screamed at other people for taking notice. Gotta feel for the guy.

generisuser037 · 2024-07-13T06:57:01+00:00

sickens me to see that most of the comments were "what did he do I deserve that?" nothing. the answer is nothing. you can't deserve this.

MozartFan5 · 2024-07-12T17:30:59+00:00

Anyone who is willing to help an abused woman but who refuses to help an abused man should be imprisoned and reeducated.

pargofan · 2024-07-12T19:46:02+00:00

FWIW, lots of redditors on r/publicfreakout discusses the double standard.

https://www.reddit.com/r/PublicFreakout/comments/1e0p6yn/shes_having_a_bad_day_fll/

Proof_Option1386 · 2024-07-12T17:36:16+00:00

When I was 18, I went on a trip to Czechoslovakia with my parents. We were tagging along on a hunting trip with my aunt and uncle and their friends. Everyone on the trip was German except us. I don't know whether or not that's significant. It was a small inn, and our group had rented out the whole thing. One night, one couple got into an argument - even though they were in their room, you could hear the man screaming at her and hitting things in the room. After about half an hour, my father and I went to investigate and found their room by following his loud yelling and the sound of her weeping.

We stood there, in front of their door for several minutes, kinda frozen. Finally I told my father we needed to intervene. He was very resistant and wanted to leave, but eventually agreed. He knocked on the door and asked if anything was wrong. The man inside asked us to leave, and we did.

That wasn't much of an intervention. And no one else was at the door of the room - despite it being clearly audible to the rest of the hotel. And this wasn't a "normal" spat between a couple. It was clear that the man was out of control and that the woman wasn't an equal participant. And yet, other than the very very little we did, no one did anything. No one even found it worthy to mention for the rest of the trip.

My point with this story is that a lot of times, people have to be trained to both recognize and react to something bad happening in public. And without that training, not only will people tend to ignore it, they will tend to not even find it noteworthy.

In America, we've trained ourselves to find any number of public abuses of women to both notable and worthy of intervention. We've trained ourselves to believe that intervening is not only right and heroic, but will make us look good. We have *not* trained ourselves to intervene with women abusing men.

Bearing witness to upsetting videos like this is part of our societal training process. I think it will, over time, result in much less of a double standard.

Hot-Personality46 · 2024-07-16T23:19:03+00:00

That would probably make her super angry if people intervened. Seen it on those videos especially on those body cams. People are coming to her aid and shes throwing fists and screaming at them to get off of her boyfriend/husband.

Title	Woman blatantly abusing boyfriend and no one seems to care... imagine a man doing this in public
Author	whatafoolishsquid
Upvotes	190
Comments	15
Date	July 12, 2024 4:07 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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