Are moods a shit test?

feminazis_stalk_me · 2015-08-14T14:03:24+00:00

You are not responsible for her moods or her feelings. That doesn't mean you can do whatever you want and she should be okay with it - it means that you shouldn't let her negative moods impact your decisions and dictate your actions.

NiftyDolphin · 2015-08-14T13:48:14+00:00

The metric I use to discern whether her moods are not shit/comfort tests is to see what she's like with non-family.

If she can hold it together for her co-workers, friends, and strangers on the street, but not for me, then she's throwing me shit or comfort tests.

2ndLion · 2015-08-14T13:39:04+00:00

Do not tolerate disrespect. But be gentle. Hold frame all time. You are her rock, her emotions is the wave. Don't let it drag you along

MattyAnon · 2015-08-14T19:59:45+00:00

What should I do when she is moody?

Depends on the cause.

Maintain frame always - you are responsible for what you say an do, regardless of the cause.

If she behaves badly during PMS time, just avoid her. No reason you should put up with that shit. You are responsible for your behaviour regardless of hormones, so is she. Seriously, just leave. (But be aware of possibility of cheating around the ovulation cycle - if so, ditch immediately because she doesn't see you as alpha).

She doesn't lose her job or her friends or get arrested once a month, she just verbally assaults her boyfriend. Think carefully about what this means in terms of how she sees you, and where you stand relative to the other people in her life. Ask her why she has to treat you worse than anyone else.

Other points:

Yes it's a shit test. Who cares about the cause or how intentional it is?
Strong frame will reduce the moodiness. Seriously. It's amazing to watch
Comfort tests would consist of her being unsure where she stands with you, rather than lashing out
Try smirking and mocking her bad moods. Make sure they do not affect you, and are therefore amusing. If you do not have this distance, GET THIS DISTANCE, because otherwise you will get fucked in this relationship.

RPmatrix · 2015-08-14T13:54:13+00:00

Maybe sometimes, although I wouldn't call thee odd 'comfort test' in an LTR a shit test, now if it was a casual plate ... that's another thing altogether

PMS is very real, moods are too, esp when you're <25, you chill as you get older, it takes more to 'set you off'

Read up online about PMS and then talk with your girl and ask her "how it goes with her"

Most girls have a pretty good idea "which days and how many" that she can be a bit "off the air"

It's handy to know as you can factor it in to her 'moodiness' .. some girls can go bonkers with PMT/S at times, we men forget women regularly experience crazy hormonal changes that men do not

Fair question bro

Title	Are moods a shit test?
Author	btharmony
Upvotes	23
Comments	31
Date	August 14, 2015 1:24 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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