Boyfriend (36m) is thinking of taking a sabbatical and start a business

Wife_and_Mama · 2024-08-20T17:31:49+00:00

I don't think this is the "provider" man you say you want. A single man with no kids should have substantial savings at 36. If he wanted to quit his job and start a business, under those circumstances, that wouldn't be a red flag. However, a man who's overly generous on dates, but has no savings is just financially irresponsible at this age. Wanting someone to provide for you, so you can lean into hobbies is already a tall order if you're not planning on kids. It just seems wildly unrealistic with this man.

Jenneapolis · 2024-08-20T21:49:43+00:00

Are your expectations realistic? At 32, do you think there are lots of men who are willing to provide for you to stay home to pursue your passions while not raising kids? You may be able to find a man in his 50s who finds this arrangement worth it but you may find you have to compromise on lots of other factors to get this. Does this guy know this is what your expectation is?

Enjianah · 2024-08-20T18:58:32+00:00

You have to decide what you would like your partner to be able to provide and see as his responsibility always. If you are satisfied with him financially providing on dates, and you financially providing for the rest (you did offer to support him financially - some would say that's mommy behavior as in I don't see you as capable of figuring things out by yourself ), he's the guy for you!

Does he even know your expectations/desires ? Does he agree ?

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Title: Boyfriend (36m) is thinking of taking a sabbatical and start a business

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Full text: My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months and I’m not sure what his career plans are like. Before I met him, I wanted to date somebody who is provider mentality guy and can take care of me because I do not want to continue working for providing financial security in a relationship, the thing is that I make twice as much more money than him and currently he’s thinking about quitting his job because he hates it and trying something new completely. He doesn’t really have a lot of savings. I have four times of savings and he does and also have a very stable promising career, but I want to quit and lean into more of my feminine side, explore my hobbies and try to explore your options for me that are less dominant. The thing is since we have met he has never let me pay and he’s so generous whenever I offer him to help him financially so that he can explore his options when I support him. He always refuses it so I don’t really know how to navigate this whole situation and, also don’t want kids in the future. I’m already 32 so I don’t know how to make sense of red pill woman in this context.

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Title	Boyfriend (36m) is thinking of taking a sabbatical and start a business
Author	throwRA_lilly
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Comments	13
Date	August 20, 2024 5:06 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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