I'm in a bad way financially and with getting time with my kids. I could spend all my savings fighting custody and by the time it settled they would be almost or out of high school. The way this has gone, I give myself about a 3% chance of showing that I've been denied parent time and getting anything more than a STFU from the judge. Last time custody was brought up by OC "he isn't exercising his parent time!" the judge didn't ask "why father, former SAHD, are you not spending time with your kids, because dad's are important you know?" she went straight to "child support follows the childs, so we'll be sure to fix that at a later date."

Since then, my ex, being the good momma that everybody knows she is, agreed to a modified parent time schedule, one that works for everybody and is almost in my kids' best interest. We have it in writing, but she's been the master of agreements between parties are unenforceable. It's mostly in my ex's best interest, but it's the best I am going to get. Given her past behavior (alienation, jacking with exchanges, changing exchange times/days/holidays) and that this would not be a conventional parent time schedule, simp me asked that we formalize it at our upcomming judicial settlement conference. Ex says no, citing female logic. All lawyer will say is that anything is game to discuss at the JSC.

Is there a negative to me responding to any offer they make on the financial settlement with "no, not until we modify the parenting plan as previously agreed" until they walk out or the conference is over? I assume the judge will punish me for something at trial. Will this increase the severity?