Don't be results oriented be growth oriented:

  1. You're only setting yourself up for failure if you're results oriented. Treat seduction like any other difficult skill in life, you're obviously not going to get good at any particular skill right away so don't set expectations. It took me 3 years to get decent at pickup, imagine if I expected results on my first week of pickup. I would look delusional, no?
  2. Instead, focus on "Did I work towards overcoming my approach anxiety? Did I work on my banter today? Did I work on practicing escalation tonight? Did I focus on fixing my mistakes?" The more you focus on growth, any and all results simply become a byproduct. When you focus on growth versus results, you are progressively going to be okay with failure and learning from it.

A majority of your fears and doubts are not real:

  1. Even if you have real fears and real doubts, I refuse to believe that you cannot overcome them or compensate for them in any way, shape or form. The best way to overcome fear and doubt is simply through action. You can either let actions overcome your mind or let your mind overcome your actions (proactivity vs. paralysis). SO GO APPROACH.
  2. I've been doing pickup for a decade and have been coaching for 4 years. I've never had a situation or seen a situation where the student ends up in an unfixable compromising situation. It always ends up with the students saying "wait I had nothing to be scared about this entire time, it was all in my head." The powerful thing about your fears and doubts is that you are the one in control of them.
  3. The definition of courage is to act in spite of fear. The fireman charges into the burning building even though he is scared of the fire. I approach a girl and tell her she's pretty even if I'm scared of being judged or laughed at.

Believe it until it is to be:

  1. I personally hate the term "fake it until you make it", I prefer "Believe it until it is to be". If you believe you're confident, you are confident. If you believe you will have a successful dating and active sex life then you will have it. Why fake confidence instead of believing in confidence? The most important conversations of man are the conversations he has with himself. The reason why it's important is because you are wiring or re-wiring your brain to have a different mental module than what it previously was.

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Happy Gaming Gentlemen
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- GallantGentleman