Stuck

Odd_Statistician_254 · 2024-09-12T22:39:16+00:00

Step 1 - Stop Thinking Step 2 - Stop Thinking Step 3 - Stop Thinking Step 4 - If you’re still thinking, go back to Step 1. Step 5 - Access other thoughts. Replace those original thoughts with other thoughts about bettering and improving yourself. Not her, not the next one, not your friends, not games, not alcohol, not drugs. Step 6 - Understand and accept that thinking about those thoughts triggered those feelings. Step 7 - Read books, workout, walk, meditate, listen to uplifting and calming music. Step 8 - Learn to live for yourself and that you’re not responsible for anyone else. Once you figure yourself out, then, and only then, take responsibility for those who deserve your help, sympathy and compassion.

Cowboy8040 · 2024-09-12T16:37:15+00:00

You’re not alone brother. I’m just over a month into separation. She filed for divorce 10 days into separation. There was no infidelity or abuse on either part. Only married 10 months. This is HELL on my heart and mind. All the emotions of grief, guilt, shame, confusion, loneliness. I’m seeing a counselor and in a divorce care group. Nothing is truly helping right now but I just gotta keep pushing. As do you, don’t let this define you.

Exactly65536 · 2024-09-12T10:50:35+00:00

Depends a bit on your situation.

Generally, there is a necessity of grieving, which mostly goes by itself, you have to alot time for it and not try to block it, and it'll pass.

Then - all kinds of "mental parasites". Feeling betrayed. Feeling you were lied to. Feeling you have been treated unfairly, subjected to injustice. Feeling you have betrayed, lied and treated someone unfairly. Etc, etc. All these may require specific resolution to stop bothering you.

familymanlikesfamily · 2024-09-12T10:21:42+00:00

Not everything is in your control, but you have control of your mind. Change your mindset.

Not easy. I fall for it all the time.

But take this divorce as a blessing and be excited for what the future holds. Everyone has their own issues. We all are looking for peace. Outside of you feeling stuck, I'm sure there's been more peace being alone. Embrace it.

Title	Stuck
Author	spicy_jalepeno
Upvotes	3
Comments	4
Date	September 12, 2024 8:02 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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