I chose to separate a month ago because I couldn’t make myself move near family and it wasn’t fair to her, that and her insecurities were getting too much I would get mad and talk down due to none of it making sense. My wife left today and it’s been killing both of us, no matter how much we both want her to come back I know it’s not smart because we’ll go back to arguing about her insecurities and my temper as well as how isolated and lonely she is, but she won’t fly out to visit family or try to make friends. No matter what I want I know logically it’s for the best that we separate and work on ourselves not gonna lie. It’s really hard. If it wasn’t for her family being toxic and me running away from my childhood/making decent money I would definitely move. But everything I’ve gone through with her family and her insecurities because of her past relationships has made our marriage, pretty toxic, despite loving each other and being attracted to each other we just don’t mix well. I’ve gone through so much the past six years with her family drama, getting screwed over by them, and her issues that I know I grew a small amount of resentment towards it all which is a bad mix when having a temper, but I do love her to death like she does me. She keeps blaming herself, but it’s both of us, but we both have issues that we need to take care of on our own first. For those that did love their ex and vice versa but just we’re toxic to each other. How did you push through with it?