Why are men often overlooked as victims of domestic abuse?

63daddy · 2024-09-15T18:07:49+00:00

Feminists put a great deal of effort into propaganda (Duluth model for example) incorrectly depicting domestic violence as a crime committed mostly by men against predominantly women, despite numerous studies to the contrary.

Feminists put a lot of effort into such patriarchy theory propaganda as a means to win one-sided policies favoring women and disadvantaging men. This isn’t unique to domestic violence. Feminists have used similar patriarchy theory arguments to win affirmative action for women, WEEA, biased title IX rulings, healthcare advantages, women owned business advantages and more.

rawspeghetti · 2024-09-15T19:10:59+00:00

I was just in an abusive relationship (mostly emotional but it became physical at the end, maybe even sexual too). When I finally said I had enough and walked away I felt humiliated for allowing this to happen to me and incredibly hurt that someone who says they loved me could treat me like I wasn't even a person.

I tried to find resources to help me understand what I've gone through. But every resource I found was geared towards women with every article being explicitly written for women survivors. I'm being honest with you that added to my feelings of emasculated; not only did I allow this to happen but even admitting that I was tricked and used doesn't seem to be an acceptable response.

This just seems to me like another example of society (I'm in the US) seemingly denying that men have feelings or that our pain and experiences don't matter.

ag55ful · 2024-09-15T16:15:58+00:00

Societal teachings that men are usually perpetrators, and that men are always at fault of their own circumstances.

Men are more violent, however, this doesn't mean male victims shouldn't get just as much recognition or support as female victims.

Men have always been seen as having more agency of their own environment, and therefore, more responsible for actions they sometimes don't even commit.

Men, don't stop advocating for our visibility and support. Make it well known we still want to be treated humanely and equally with women.

Limp_Razzmatazz_792 · 2024-09-15T16:40:38+00:00

Because people are dumb. Think, the abuser gonna go free, get protected and excuse by society. Like they can commit crime and go free. That how they treat woman who abuse men. They can scream, lie and people believe. A man say a woman is an abuser, hah, they all laugh.

ljfrench · 2024-09-15T19:50:59+00:00

Back when the Cassie Jay movie was coming out, she was offering self-hosted screenings for something like $250 or $500. Rent a Theater and play the film for an audience. I have a friend in sound and stage so I asked him to help me put it together.

Boy did I get an earful. Women are assaulted more than men so we can't focus on men's problems until women's problems are fully solved. He literally said women are raped in Africa so we can't screen a film about the feminist who documented men's rights. Real zero sum game shit.

The older I get, the more I have the impression that this kind of thinking is widespread. That we can't just focus on ending violence, it has to be gendered and favor women.

ProblemAltruistic2 · 2024-09-15T20:25:39+00:00

Apparently because men are violent other men aren't allowed to complain when they themselves are a victim of violence.

DaJosuave · 2024-09-15T21:53:03+00:00

I told my ex wives family about her physical abuse their answer was literally "boohoo, you're such a little wimp trying to make it a big deal"

Yea, those people are sick in the head.

MikiSayaka33 · 2024-09-15T20:01:08+00:00

I figured that society assumes that men are supposed to be the tough guys that aren't supposed to cry/show emotions. (But then on the flip side they want them to show their "feminine" side).

Top_Row_5116 · 2024-09-16T10:33:09+00:00

This reminds me of the google definition for Sexism. Look it up, its a fun read.

Sexism:
"prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination, typically against women, on the basis of sex."

Considering that reports have come out showing that sexism occurs as equal levels to both genders, google should really get that changed.

Wise_Artichoke_3381 · 2024-09-17T15:57:01+00:00

The worst part is when people use stats....you do realize that that stat won't change until you start arresting the perpetrator. Until people as a whole realize everyone is affected by crime and women should be accountable to their actions like men. Then again society will continue sweeping it under the rug because they turned crime into a competition.

Title	Why are men often overlooked as victims of domestic abuse?
Author	warmy1818
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Date	September 15, 2024 2:25 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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