This gives them an opportunity to say they’ve had a negative experience or a positive experience. Either way you win

Positive: “It’s been okay so far. Everyone has been respectful and I’ve met some cool people”

Your Possible response: “Same! I’ve connected with some great people. I’m upfront and honest which makes things easy.”

This is helpful because she will confirm that honesty is important to her, and that you can be trusted. Trust is the foundation of safety. This is also pique her interest into what you are honest and upfront about. She will want to know what your intentions are and then ask. This will govern you an opportunity to be open about what you want. No need for games.

Negative Experience: “ Honestly, it’s been overwhelming. Guys also are really weird”

Your possible response: “I can only imagine! I’ve heard some of the wild things guys say. I have kinks myself but there’s not need to be crude. I’m upfront, honest, but moreover respectful.

*bonus you could ask “what’s the craziest thing a guy has said to you!” - I use this sparingly only because it could bring up negative feelings in a potentially positive moment. But it’s good to hear what craziness other guys are saying. This also gives you an opportunity to provide contrast between you and other men.

The goal is to make her wonder what her experience will be like with you. It’s all mental. Start with her mind first.