Clubbing for the first time

Longjumping_Act9758 · 2024-10-26T16:52:14+00:00

Went to a bar last night. I noticed there were two girls trying to order some drinks, one was a really beautiful redhead. I was trying to move on closer but some dude literally blocked me by pretending to order a drink.

No problem, I stood and waited for him to say something, dude hesitated until they moved away from the bar to a corner nearby. I counted from 1-10 and just walked over and started talking to them.

The other girl was drunk while me and the redhead talked for a good 30 minutes till I got her number. It was a pleasant conversation and would definitely want to set something up in future.

Long story short..... You miss the shots you don't take. I also went to another bar but the girls there were not feeling me. Neither were they feeling some of the other guys who approached, some who weren't bad looking(no homo).

Oh and the other guys orbiting her and her friend kept looking back at me talking to her in surprise.

MysteryLiezer · 2024-10-26T07:00:26+00:00

If you know how to dance, then dance.

If you don’t know how to dance, then learn.

Everything else will fall into place from there.

burncushlikewood · 2024-10-26T06:42:54+00:00

Haha night game is a different beast, your question is very broad and generalized, I would start first by learning how to approach and flirt, escalation, but secretly what I like to do in clubs is make her jealous, if she sees you flirting with a girl all of a sudden her hamster wheel starts to spin, and your value will skyrocket

Chicagoj1563 · 2024-10-27T10:04:19+00:00

The best advice I can give you is to turn approaching into a fun game and experiment with different things. You need to be willing to do and say just about anything to find out what works for you.

Try to avoid putting on an act and trying to get something from the girl. Instead, tap into your natural personality in an amplified state.

“Thinking” usually is a losing cause in game. Turn off your thinking mind, and instead focus on what is fun for you.

And find a balance between normal making a connection conversation with self amused pushing her buttons type of conversation. You need both. You have to find a balance.

Main thing is go have fun, turn your thinking mind off, experiment and see what works.

You can learn more about game fundamentals or the technical side later.

SnooMarzipans8858 · 2024-10-27T14:30:17+00:00

Just go up to them tbh. Sometimes theyre looking for new people to meet as well.

Last night I approached a couple of random girls just to make friends. It was awkward yeah but i think its like that all the time anyways at first.

squattingHuman · 2024-10-26T06:24:45+00:00

Try this opening, walk up to a girl in a club and say, "Hey girl, does that butt fart?"

Let me know how the results go. If possible record it, I wanna see

HomelessMilkman · 2024-10-26T07:35:39+00:00

It's 'subcommunication', the overwhelming majority of the interaction is 'non-verbal'.

So, it's more important that whatever you're doing, you deliver it as if it's 'cool', you say it with passion and energy, excitement, fun; you do things and you commit to it.

Recognize the difference between someone interacting while holding back and a guy who's freely expressive and commiting to all of his words and actions. That's the difference.

Having 'confidence' is the abilty to 'present'. If you can't confidently approach as if she needs to hear what you're going to say because it's so awesome, you're not confident, it doesn't mean anything. The tires need to meet the road.

You approach like you actually want her attention, like you're deserving of her attention and you have something interesting about you. You can say and do anything, just make it seem cool.

It's actually a joke; point your finger and look at it in wonderment like it's amazing, look at her, now back at your finger, now back at her, "Are you seeing this?!". There's your opener. That isn't some 'hidden technique', I just thought of something in 2 seconds.

You don't understand, it's actually dumb. For some reason guys are struggling really hard when you literally have to do anything but sell it as cool. It's behaviour, it's vibe, it's 'acting', fuck the surface layer content and just do things with 'gusto'.

Title	Clubbing for the first time
Author	Training_March6288
Upvotes	6
Comments	9
Date	October 26, 2024 6:21 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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