I'll try to make it quick.

My wife and I have been married for 8 years. i checked out for most of the relationship as I was dealing with depression, PTSD, and chronic illness. I don't make excuses, however, and like she said, that shouldn't have stopped me from showing her the love she felt she deserved. We are going through the stages of me going through all the stages of grief and her stonewalling and insisting on the divorce.

She makes no effort to hide her resentment, anger, and plain malice. How at fault I am and how I "snuffed out the light" of our marriage and she is finally done, ready to do things for herself. I begged, groveled, and pleaded (all of which I know now are a death's kiss to respect). She turned it all away. Eventually, I coped and decided to let her go. To try and make the split amicably.

However... She still gets upset with me if I do "too much." Buy her a piece of cake from her favorite bakery. Too much, stop doing that! Sit next to her during dinner? I'm sweeping her feelings under the rug! Ask her how her day was. Could you not hover over me?!

So I step back. I go grey stone. Nothing matters just the exit.

Why aren't you looking at me? You haven't spoken to me all day. Why do you leave the room when I enter? Just on and on till I have to retreat and shed tears of just anger and confusion.

Why is she doing this? I'm going crazy. Do you want me to leave or do you want me here? I've asked her specifically how she wants me to act and proceed around her and the answer is always I don't know. I'm at my wit's end. I know the simple answer is to leave, but I can't. Financially just not an option. How do I need to conduct myself if kindness and indifference are both met with anger?