By that I mean, what do you reluctantly avoid doing just because you're concerned a cop might make a pathetic excuse to arrest you on grounds that you seemed out of place or that a paranoid parent/husband/brother might assault you? For instance, maybe you avoid sitting on playground benches or don't share elevators with single women.

Even though I don't think misandry is as prevalent as many of us suggest I have firsthand experience with the chilling effect. I feel a bit hesitant to enjoy watching children play. I really want to fight that inhibition. I also want to disprove my parents teachings about how being disheveled is a red flag.

Something I told my friend who had been a bit concerned about going by himself to a waterpark (partly because he is ethnic and overweight) is that if those parents do in fact feel uncomfortable (which most of them probably won't anyway), maybe they deserve it. Serves them right for being judgmental, paranoid, and thinking that just because they love their darlings and would cross fire and brimstone for them (no matter how justifiable their claims of children being defenseless and basic parental instincts are) they have the right to boss innocent people around. He also says sometimes at night he crosses the street if there's a woman, but I've asserted "you have every right to be on a public sidewalk." What we need is a culture of trust and mutual respect. Don't let the Karens win.