Coming to terms ..

LightOverWater · 2024-11-24T18:55:06+00:00

Where were you shooting before?

Where are you shooting now, after your increase in SMV?

Wife_and_Mama · 2024-11-24T18:53:59+00:00

I think you should read Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough, by Lori Gottlieb. The title is awful and not really representative of the content. She speaks from the place of a woman past 40 wishing someone had given her this advice when she was in her 20s. It's about realizing what's actually out there, vs. your demands. For instance, only 14% of American men are 6' or taller. That's before accounting for any other factors, like age, marital status, etc.

Women picture the men they watched in Disney movies as children and rom/coms growing up, when they think of their future husband. This can lead to a lot of arbitrary requirements. I promise his hairline means nothing when he's been sleeping next to your ICU bed for 4 days, cuz you almost died having some babies.

This book helped me a lot when I finally decided that I was going to get serious about dating and stop nexting good men for dumb reasons. I met my husband six months later and I've been reccing it here ever since.

renewedblush · 2024-11-24T20:36:07+00:00

Can I ask what the signs were that it wasn’t working/you weren’t inspiring commitment? I ask because reading through this thread, I think it’s likely you’re quite attractive… popular college frat boys don’t usually date girls who are beneath them in terms of appearance… but there may be something personality-wise that’s turning them off along the way. RPW has really helped me to focus on my feminine energy and ensure I’m showing up in a way that lowers my partner’s stress and adds to their life. Past a certain age, every man has baggage in terms of women with bad attitudes, lots of demands, etc. that they’ve dated. The challenge is showing you’re different than that, IMO.

AutoModerator · 2024-11-24T18:42:41+00:00

Title: Coming to terms ..

Author traceyyhart

Full text: Hi Ladies!

Like the title says I’m coming to terms with the fact I’m more than likely going for men who are “out of my league”.

Little background, i was morbidly obese, lost all the weight and looks maxed as best as i could. Night and day almost. I stumbled upon RPW after losing the man i truly loved two years ago and have done all i can to improve myself. I am softer, i don’t nag/control, i dress more feminine, etc. basically a new me.

I figured dating for me would be easier now than before but i feel stuck in the same place. I recently ended things with a man bc i saw the signs and knew i wasn’t inspiring him to commit.

I ended things last Friday and have been in deep thought since. If I’m implementing all of the RPW techniques and still striking out then that means one thing? I’m shooting outside and of my league. Right?

Question is, how do i accept that and work on changing my type? This isn’t me “accepting defeat” but me re-evaluating my standards/preferences. I turn 30 next month and concerned I’ll never find love if i keep the same approach to dating.

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Title	Coming to terms ..
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Date	November 24, 2024 6:42 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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