I moved to Eastern Europe recently and I've been in monk mode for the past few months to focus on starting my business and lifting. After getting all the groundwork in place, I've started to go out to promote the business (I'm teaching and need students). I met this girl and I got some IOIs from her. She lost a bet and bought me a drink. I leave it be but three days later she adds me on facebook.

She tells me she can't go to my classes and then I ask her out on a date. I specifically use the word date, and she's down. The day of the date, the shit tests fly regarding logistics. I picked the time/place but she sends me a text saying she's out with friends and I can come to meet them. I refuse. She says "it's cold out and I'm a girl." I reply "Yes, a whiny little girl and I don't travel to see whiny girls. Come here." She ends up coming to meet me around 10:30, which is much later than we planned and I'm working on the business anyway so I don't mind. At this point, I'm thinking she's DTF because I passed the shit tests and she's coming to meet me at 10:30.

"Date" goes well. I surprised myself with how "on point" I was. I've clearly gained a few SMV points since monk mode and my confidence was through the roof. The conversation was about sex pretty much the whole time. She talked about her porn preferences, etc... I'm all over her with my hands. She lets me do whatever I want (except touch her face) but isn't initiating any kino. So I take her hand and put it right above my knee. I remove my hand and she leaves it there for five minutes. She's not doing much with it but I did get a little caress every once in a while.

At one point I feel the tension growing and go in for the kiss. She rejects it and I ignore it and keep talking. When we leave, she gets out a cigarette and I take it out of her hand and say "I'm kissing you before you smoke." Again, she stops me. I break the cigarette and then kiss her neck. Then I make intense eye contact with her until I can feel her submitting and we make out. Again, she's timid for a bit but after a few minutes she starts to get into it and grabs my ass.

At this point I think I'm in and walk her to my apartment. At the door, she says she's not sleeping with me. I take this as a shit test and lead her into the door. She resists for the first time and I try a bit harder but I feel like it's a hard no. I look her in the eyes, tell her to enjoy her porn and say goodnight. If I had to do the night over again, I would pick her up and carry her up the stairs. It might have worked.

Two days later, I try to set up day 2:
ME: "Saturday: drinks, cuddle, movie?"
HER: "I will be in Paris bitch and anyway you want to fuck me not hug me so dont give me bullshit, it is drinks, sex, movie (or not even those two). Youre an asshole
ME: Yes and we need foreplay first. More like drinks, make out and dry hump, watch a porno and then fuck. I'll hug you after you put in 3 months of being my slut. When are you back?
HER: You know being confident/cocky and being an asshole - not the same thing. Just an advise for the future. I am back Monday, not sleeping with you but nice try.
ME: Cheating makes you not girlfriend material - advice for the future. Relax and enjoy my company. I enjoy yours. Tuesday: drinks, cuddle, movie?

No reply. My comments on the texting: I feel like my SMV wasn't high enough to get away with the "be my slut" part. Also my last response was probably too needy since I asked to meet right after she returns.

Anyway, here's what I need help with. Is there any wisdom in "don't be too much of an asshole?" I feel like I'm being such an asshole that girls reject me because they don't want me to win. This happens a lot. I can feel the attraction but I always get rejected at first for kisses. I need help breaking that pattern and learning how to close. One time a girl was super into me at a bar and told me we can't kiss there because her boyfriend is there too (this was true). A few days later she comes to my apartment at 11PM and I go for the kiss and again get rejected. At that point I kick her out. This is the pattern I need to break.

Thank you for your help.