TLDR Might be Demisexual, need outside perspective on attraction and sexual motivation.

Ill try to keep this brief: Ive always prioritized personality over looks, and outside of VERY rare occurences i never feel sexual desire just by looking at someone. Instead, if im interested, ill make an effort to get to know them better and if i like their vibe, ill want to move forward which often led to rejection. It turns out this is a common trait of Demisexuality which now has me questioning how "Normal" attraction works?

From what i understand, you know you want to pursue a woman by what you see first (her appearance, clothing, etc.) THEN youll talk to her for qualification and such, and eventually your interest in each other develops?

am i getting this right? im sure i sound Autistic as hell rn but im seriously questioning how attraction works. i though everyone was like me tf?