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LifestylePunch-SideIron/r/seduction11/07/24 11:02 AM
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Outer Game Punch-SideIron/r/seduction15/10/24 10:26 AM
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Inner Game Punch-SideIron/r/seduction22/05/26 08:01 AM
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Fundamentals Punch-SideIron/r/seduction14/08/25 03:31 PM
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Inner Game Punch-SideIron/r/seduction04/03/25 09:45 AM
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Outer Game Punch-SideIron/r/seduction23/03/26 10:07 AM
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Inner Game Punch-SideIron/r/seduction30/12/25 09:49 AM
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Inner Game Punch-SideIron/r/seduction06/05/26 09:44 AM
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Inner Game Punch-SideIron/r/seduction26/11/24 02:19 AM
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Inner Game Punch-SideIron/r/seduction23/04/25 10:35 AM
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Outer Game Punch-SideIron/r/seduction28/05/26 02:30 AM
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LogisticsPunch-SideIron/r/seduction13/06/25 10:32 AM
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ConversationPunch-SideIron/r/seduction01/12/24 05:12 AM
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LogisticsPunch-SideIron/r/seduction27/04/24 07:34 AM
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Field ReportPunch-SideIron/r/seduction15/02/24 01:01 AM
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Fuck. This actually put the whole thing into perspective. Do it because they don't want to miss out. There could be any number of reasons a girl might want us to bang her. We just need to socialize enough to make those reasons happen.
/r/seduction28/07/26 08:45 PM
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Define decent success? I like being more straightforward with my intentions but understand that plausible deniability is necessary
/r/seduction28/07/26 08:40 PM
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Such as? I'm genuinely curious
/r/seduction05/07/26 12:16 PM
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If she isn't left running like the Colorado River seeing ninja turtle sheets in a racecar bed she doesn't deserve this dick.
/r/seduction26/06/26 09:22 PM
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Yes??? Youre the woman: be receptive to the guys approaching you??? You literally just have to be pleasant to whomever your talking to and the average (confident) man would clock you as potentially interested and ask you out. You don't have to seduce shit tf?
/r/seduction08/06/26 04:04 PM
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The part your missing is: what if you're not attracted to him? Then you move on and he does the exact things your asking for...TO ANOTHER WOMAN BECAUSE YOUVE PASSED HIM BY!!! AND IF SHE REJECTS HIM, THEN HE TALKS TO ANOTHER ONE. AND ANOTHER. AND ANOTHER. See how it becomes a numbers game? Of course talk to a woman like a person, but you still have to talk to many people to improve your chances of finding someone you like... Hence numbers game
/r/seduction08/06/26 04:01 PM
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I seeee. So when you guys say to just be fun and not take things seriously at first; this is what you mean? Is there not an expectation to ACTUALLY know what I do for work or my opinion on the climate then? Does it really matter or am I expected to mostly joke around and just maintain good vibes?
/r/seduction28/05/26 09:11 AM
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Are you being serious or teasing me?
/r/seduction28/05/26 09:01 AM
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I tried partnering w one to start a small shop. She had the benefit of her girlfriend(s) vouching for her abilities otherwise I wouldn't have given her consideration. 6 months later I'm in massive debt w a smashed truck and she can't understand why I'm furious w her. Broke off the partnership/friendship before anything else happened. Thank fuck I know what "Sunk cost fallacy" is.
/r/seduction25/05/26 05:19 PM
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Sure... If all you want is a dolly to stick your dick into. You're obviously young if you think having a hot chick down to fuck all the time is the height of "Desirable"
/r/seduction25/05/26 03:09 PM
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Damn! Someone who knows the difference between alt girlie and cluster B personality? How badly did she fuck your life up brother?
/r/seduction25/05/26 03:02 PM
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you can get away with saying/doing anything as long as it's charismatic and fun, the world opens up I think I'm getting it now. The expectation of a conversation isn't so much to exchange factually correct information; it's moreso to A) Amuse ourselves (because amusing ourself is the most important thing, otherwise you're being a "dancing monkey(?)" for the group) and B) Amuse others while providing basic level information. (being a deep and pensive thinker is working very hard against me right …
/r/seduction23/05/26 02:50 PM
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But the book is essentially written by an autistic man for autistic men Wait, Mystery is autistic? I didn't know THAT!?!? half of this sub is neurodivergent, present company included, and we literally had a member of OUR TRIBE write one of the pickup Bibles??? Why isn't this more well known in the community?
/r/seduction23/05/26 11:35 AM
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Even with people directly telling you what they want, they actually want to reinforce their current reality, feel comfortable, safe, feel uplifted and feel more content with being 'entertained' than getting the actual answer. In terms of an actual 'real', grounded, insightful, open-minded conversation, with no judgment or bias - yeah, you're not getting one of those. There unfortunately isn't 'inherent value', if you stop pressing that dopamine button in their brain they don't 'like' you any mor…
/r/seduction23/05/26 11:30 AM
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One where I feel seen and satisfied after talking instead of empty. I'm a great listener; I fully own that as a desirable trait but I've been Listening for near 30 yrs. I want someone to listen to me for a change and actually be interested instead of just... waiting for their turn to talk or to use what I say against me.
/r/seduction22/05/26 02:39 PM
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Was the edit an addition of the acting classes? Because that actually tracks REALLY WELL as a form of exposure therapy holy shit. I hung out w the theatre kids in HS and really enjoyed the company (even if a bunch were hella awkward/in the closet/projecting) due to how open and campy they could be. Maybe I should've been one of them.
/r/seduction22/05/26 11:52 AM
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Played that game. Self reflection was a MASSIVE strength of mine, helped us zero in on my parents being the root of my issues within 2 years.
/r/seduction22/05/26 08:26 AM
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You're the only one who spends 100% of your time with you: Why spend that time being strangers?
/r/seduction22/05/26 08:15 AM
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Wtf is a "Mouth piece"?
/r/seduction19/05/26 05:12 PM
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Never considered that. Figured doing most shit on my own outside of the coffee shop made me a loner. I'll look into introvert advice then. Thank you
/r/seduction06/05/26 07:34 PM
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Plenty of people like me. I have a small, solid core of friends. I Choose to be a loner because the effort involved in talking to others isn't worth the rewards. Every person I've made friends with was through exposure, not intent. I was born asthmatic my G. Even before being a loner I was already undesirable due to my physical health. The amount of people who walked away from me in primary school because I couldn't play with them was in the dozens. I didn't need her before I met her. Why would …
/r/seduction06/05/26 06:37 PM
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I do that! My entire friend group was made at a coffee shop I haunt so I usually just wander over that way and socialize w whomever is working/present. The majority of the socializing I do do is at said coffee shop tbh. Lower stress than a bar or club.
/r/seduction06/05/26 06:18 PM
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Telling stories in a crowd? Like a group of my friends or random people?
/r/seduction06/05/26 04:07 PM
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-And being a loner is inherently unattractive to most women Why? Not being sarcastic: I generally want to know why being a loner is unnatractive.
/r/seduction06/05/26 03:57 PM
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You understand why it's beneficial to date someone with money and power / influence - yes? It gives you access to some of that money and influence. It gives you access to a "better" lifestyle in nearly every way. Only if they decide to open the door for me? Just because I'm dating... Sabrina Carpenter doesn't mean I'm now entitled to a life of luxury JUST BECAUSE IM DATING HER. THE FUCK? Look at Jeff Bezos' ex wife. She is one of the richest women on earth, allowing her immense freedom to do wha…
/r/seduction23/03/26 08:03 PM
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By that I mean how you rank in society. What does this mean??? "Where I rank in society?" Brother; society is made up. All these goofy rules don't ACTUALLY exist. That's my point: this shit sounds made up but a massive subsection of the population treats it as gospel, treats it like THE RULES...whereas someone like me asks "why?" Why don't I, as the standout, Intuit this nonsense the way everyone else seems to? It's keeping up with the Joneses on a civilizational scale for a lack of better term.
/r/seduction23/03/26 05:17 PM
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That's what it sounds like to me: buying the newest 2026 sedan mobile makes you SOMEBODY...unlike those LOSERS driving around in a 4-5 year old car, or gasps something even OLDER!!! (Notwithstanding that ANYONE with a running vehicle is doing better than someone without...and someone with working legs is doing better than someone in a wheelchair...etc.)
/r/seduction23/03/26 05:09 PM
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For example, a CEO of a large corporation will usually have higher social status than a delivery driver. Why? This just cycles back in to the part I dont understand: why does a CEO retain higher status than a delivery driver?
/r/seduction23/03/26 04:12 PM
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but the masses behaves the opposite which is to put high status people on a pedestal and themselves as beneath them. NOW WERE GETTING SOMEWHERE! WHY? Why do they do this? From what I've gathered; the unwashed masses behave this way, and by exploiting this backwards way of thinking, I can attain the vaunted "Social status"...but WHY do people do this instead of questioning it like I do? Why am I the odd man out because I don't consider myself as better than others?
/r/seduction23/03/26 01:30 PM
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Thank you!
/r/seduction23/03/26 01:14 PM
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When you define a girl hot, beatiful, your crush or when you define someone who is of authority like your boss or cops ... you auto put them above you and yourself beneath them ... hence they are of higher status. No, I don't? I have never once considered my boss as having authority over me 😭 and the day I speak to cops with anything but contempt is the day I'm dead. Furthermore, just because some broad is pretty, doesn't mean shes anything other than a pretty set of holes to me. Doesn't persona…
/r/seduction23/03/26 01:13 PM
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YOU. YOU GET IT!
/r/seduction23/03/26 10:59 AM
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I agree that social status isn't everything. What is it in the first place? The more I try to understand it, the more it sounds like make believe nonsense. Who the hell decides that they're second place in their own life?
/r/seduction23/03/26 10:59 AM
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Please do. I'm curious how this works.
/r/seduction23/03/26 10:56 AM
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you need a superficial layer on top of your logical communication. This is where the fun is, because you can move in and out of logic to absurdity. I DO do this! At DND I frequently make jokes about fucking the monsters to my severely autistic homies confusion or stating I'll wire a gorillas heart to my 4x4 for extra OOMPH! If I had to use percentages, I'd say I'm maybe 15-20% superficial, 80% serious?
/r/seduction30/12/25 04:49 PM
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you need a superficial layer on top of your logical communication. This is where the fun is, because you can move in and out of logic to absurdity. I DO do this! At DND I frequently make jokes about fucking the monsters to my severely autistic homies confusion or stating I'll wire a gorillas heart to my 4x4 for extra OOMPH! If I had to use percentages, I'd say I'm maybe 15-20% superficial, 80% serious? I have a hard time letting loose because it was always used against me
/r/seduction30/12/25 04:28 PM
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Understand your values Don't really have any. Survive by any means maybe? Take up space and attention of other people. THIS PART RIGHT HERE. THIS IS MY BIGGEST GRIPE. HOW does one get used to this? Any time I have more than passive attention on me I get really freaked out and nervous and lose any charm or nerve I may have had. I was talking about the Brando movie The Wild One w my Trans friend, and when I realized she was giving me undivided attention; proper eye contact, follow up questions, ge…
/r/seduction30/12/25 02:41 PM
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??? Now I'm even more confused? All of this sounds...invasive to ask? Do people normally ask each other these kinds of things? Growing up, asking my Dad questions like this got me yelled at for being "So goddamn nosy all the time" so I'm really lost? I thought people just...talk about themselves and anything they want you to know, they'll mention?
/r/seduction11/12/25 03:35 PM
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I thought we didn't want to make women uncomfortable? I could be mistaken, but isn't the initial move to build comfort? Could you give an example of uncomfortable or rarely thought of topics?
/r/seduction08/12/25 07:19 PM
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No, Should it!?!? Where the fuck are y'all looking when you talk to someone??? Who the fuck gets turned on by EYES??? WHATS NEXT; ANKLES?
/r/seduction30/09/25 03:00 AM
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I understand the concept of calibration, however I need context on how it factors in with whispering. My best guess is that because it's such an intimate interaction, by allowing me to do so ive calibrated my current progress relative to my dates compliance?
/r/seduction15/08/25 01:41 AM
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Tell her the things she makes you feel in terms of attraction and sexual desire I think I understand concept now: I'm alluding to how her personality and mannerisms affect me not only emotionally, but physically as well without being obvious. Instead of "You're hot and it makes me hard" id use the more poetic lines you suggested which Imply physical reaction. I was of the impression that any reference to physical reaction was bad? Like it was obvious and cringe to say, for ex. "I'm trying so har…
/r/seduction15/08/25 01:36 AM
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Talk about sexual topics/use sexual inneundos - see how she reacts. This part here. The only time I've felt comfortable talking about these kinds of things is when a woman brings it up first, and it's usually the self professed "Sluts" that talk about sex openly. Im also a virgin, so I don't HAVE any experience to really reference. Whisper in her ear - see how she reacts. What am I whispering? WHY am I whispering?
/r/seduction14/08/25 04:11 PM
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Because they were told to suck it up or otherwise shamed into hiding it you fucking melon. SOLDIERS HEART SHELL SHOCK BATTLE FATIGUE all antiquated terms for what we now call PTSD
/r/seduction12/08/25 03:01 PM
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Do people not do this? Not trying to be a troll, genuinely asking? All of this describes how I live my life; paying various compliments when the mood strikes me, mainly for myself because making people feel good makes ME feel good, but I thought that's what everyone does? Isn't all this moreso to be a decent and sociable human... Or is BEING decent and sociable the characteristics that Makes one more visibly romantic? Apologies if I sound autistic asking this; my family was a loveless one so soc…
/r/seduction12/08/25 02:13 PM
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Joy/Happiness- any joke for a funny thing you say/do, you will make her laugh and feel good.... Job done! How important IS this skill? I've noticed between the eye contact and general conversational competency I get laughs Semi frequently. Is curiousity really that effective as well? I think I triggered that earlier but didn't follow through on tension building
/r/seduction08/08/25 10:07 PM
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Has Gleam made the jump to Android yet? Ive heard good things but it's apple only so far iirc
/r/seduction07/08/25 01:06 PM
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Women feel sexual tension when a man is social with her but detached from her appearance simultaneously So if I were charismatic in my interaction w a woman but didn't make it overtly obvious im physically attracted, maybe a compliment on her clothing/accessories, then she would be MORE interested than if I were more forward? Have I understood this right?
/r/seduction09/07/25 12:53 PM
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HOLY SHIT. THIS IS THE MOST CLEAR AND CONCISE RESPONSE IVE EVER RECEIVED. YOUVE GIVEN MASSIVE CONTEXT TO SOOOO MANY OF MY QUESTIONS AND OVERTHINKING. So to summarize Overt/Direct is considered low value and needy, not confident and to the point. The ambiguity of the opener is the necessary component to build tension, which is whats needed to spur interest, bettering our chance of a successful close. Instead just approach and use the contextual environment. Your approach by ITSELF is already enou…
/r/seduction06/07/25 03:44 AM
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she still responds to me when i try and chat w her, so i can potentially use this. she was also nerding out abput the newest doom game, so i can tease her by aski g if shes explored her new town yet or just hid away in her gamer grotto. she also still gives me side eyes during game time, so i think shes still considering it... ESPECUALLY with how much i flirted w her playthrough before last.
/r/seduction03/07/25 06:21 PM
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brief acknowedgement and emojis. Do you want to try to salvage the situation? Do you think its possible? her friend told me shes currently seeing someone
/r/seduction03/07/25 05:54 PM
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looking back on it: flooding my DMs w reels, getting annoyed when i didnt respond. sending reels back and forth, plenty of emoji reactions. She sent me links to events, most likely trying to prompt me into asking her out. finally, she sent me that photo of the charcouterie board w candy, drugs and condoms on it, asking "Did you see the picture?" i did, but played it off not knowing whether it was a hint or not (most likely was) and the interest slowly faded after that. so that was most likely th…
/r/seduction03/07/25 03:53 PM
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went for 2 years. by the end, every issue i experience looped back to my parents and tge way they raised me. ive spent the last 3 years working through it w exposure therapy as thats literally the only way to overcome this bullshit. Im miles ahead of who i used to be, damn near the way i was at my most confident, but i still have to learn new skills that invite rejection from others and thats what scares me. btw its not "Crippling" ive just been left in a very dark mood i havent experienced sinc…
/r/seduction03/07/25 03:47 PM
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how can i enjoy approaching? its usually the most stressful part of the interaction for me; no matter what i tell myself, i feel like a needy loser when i put the effort in to connect to others. Verbal escalation is the hardest thing for me, mainly because i hate talking (especially about myself.) Asking about others feels gross too, like im being nosy.
/r/seduction03/07/25 02:53 PM
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could you describe overt vs covert? is that like being direct vs indirect? because i genuinely have no clue how to BE indirect. it seems like i typically overestimate how subtle i need to be to be indirect, but i cant find any good resources that explain which part of the statement is the indirect part to begin with. For the sake of learning, whats wrong with being direct?
/r/seduction03/07/25 01:03 PM
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Youre feedback is valuable and honestly prolly true when i dig into myself. I asked another guy this but youve been more responsive: am i suppose to act like every woman i talk to wants me and constantly be on the lookout for ioi's? Because that requires me to essentially be the complete opposite to who i am, which is doable, i just need to know im on the right train of thought.
/r/seduction03/07/25 10:53 AM
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Finally something that holds weight! This sounds like what happened near note for note! I have been a lot more confident over the past year, so between the rejection and the insta push i guess i did sell myself as the prize? how tf am i supposed to know whether someones flirting or just being friendly? do i just assume all women want me always and constantly scan for ioi's?
/r/seduction03/07/25 10:27 AM
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im depressed because i feel i fumbled w someone i really liked, not because i was rejected. of course i did, she was immensely more interesting than most women i talk to. i take antidepressants for my depression. pretty sure im depressed. can i get you to expand on this a bit? its a little jumbled.
/r/seduction03/07/25 10:13 AM
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she wasnt "planning" events, she would send a random link to something every now and again. I figured her being autistic-adhd meant she was just very enthusiatic about these things and wanted to share her interests we also live an hour apart and only saw each orher in person on wednesdays, so logistics were kind of a mess
/r/seduction03/07/25 08:15 AM
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did you edit this to be more disrespectful? wtf is wrong w you my guy?
/r/seduction03/07/25 08:10 AM
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im 29 my G, but inexperienced yes.
/r/seduction03/07/25 08:07 AM
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Stack up?
/r/seduction03/07/25 08:05 AM
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more or less. traumatic early childhood, neglect, isolation, etc. left me depressed/crippled socially and only recently (29) have i caught up to the degree i have a decent friend group and a 3rd place to hang out in.
/r/seduction03/07/25 08:00 AM
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weve been in the same DND group for that whole year, and i couldnt make too many moves otherwise i risked getting myswlf banned from the location we play at. Looking back that may have been why she got my insta in the first place...
/r/seduction03/07/25 07:56 AM
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On this particular case she sent you events, did you go? one was 2.5hrs outta my way and my truck is not reliable enough for the journey. the other was an archery place that i asked if it was local. never got an amswer. You need to stand out, she will chase you, if you don't chase her, like all the others. i think i did tbh, thats why she made the move in the firsr place. i just didnt perceive it as interest until after the fact. You're probably not depressed, you're probably frustrated. The cla…
/r/seduction03/07/25 07:53 AM
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bevause im shit w social media and dont undersrand the unspoken rules
/r/seduction03/07/25 07:48 AM
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i see youve met my mother.
/r/seduction01/07/25 05:01 PM
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THANK YOU. i get the same regurgitated shit but if i could just get an example pointing out the part im looking for help with, id be sooo much further ahead
/r/seduction24/06/25 12:45 AM
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im in Oshawa, but the GO train is close and i have a truck being repaired rn so ill have reliable transpo by july if travel is required. I have thurs to sun typically open as availability
/r/seduction13/06/25 11:33 AM
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If people comments on your outfit, you are standing out visually, which is good. Any appearance that stands out will do. Yes, people interested in you will engage and will conviniently use your distinctive look as a cold read opener. Good to know! these kinds of compliments happen more often now that i walk w an open body language, so ill start internalizing these moments as chances to build connections! What you should really aim to do is make people say "wow, I've never met a guy like you befo…
/r/seduction30/05/25 02:49 PM
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Infectious Presence: would this be the visual appeal of the bad boy? leather jacket, boots, masculine energy type shit? because i had an experience just last night at a bar that couldve been this exact scenario? As i was leaving, some dude gave me a fist bump and commented on my outfit (very biker-y looking) asking if i was playing a show and further remarked i looked like a rocker/musician. I was confused but played along a little bit, thanked him for the compliment and left after he prompted a…
/r/seduction30/05/25 01:07 PM
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I typically just say the truth: My dad was a crime lord who taught me early on just how valuable privacy truly is. "Photos are evidence, and stories are admissions of guilt until the statute of limitations kicks in" or to quote lil Wayne "Real Gs move in silence like lasagna"
/r/seduction29/05/25 04:13 PM
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Verbal escalation. im piss poor at communication, i just assume contact is fine unless im told otherwise. is Kino better than verbal escalation?
/r/seduction29/05/25 12:50 AM
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Natural Kino? Are you truly so experienced that it comes naturally to you? Have you practiced touching others so often that it's become a reflex? since i was told im EXPECTED to touch? excuses for hands, arms and shoulders present themselves all the time, i just... human along and it seems to go really well. no complaints about being handsy or close proximity. im a big burly dude as well, so i think theres a subtext of safety and danger as well? If you are not like that then you need to create y…
/r/seduction28/05/25 06:29 PM
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And if you lack empathy, then sorry but dating is not for you. I lack Affective Empathy; the ability to internalize anothers feelings as my own. My Cognitive Empathy is pretty good, as i can discern why someone is upset by the situation theyre in, and i can understand why theyre reacting the way they are to the stimuli. i myself dont feel what they feel however. If you think women are some kind of "fragile thing" that will break at the minimum inisnuation or mention fo something remotely sexual,…
/r/seduction28/05/25 06:20 PM
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i went to therapy during covid. pretty much all my issues stem from my parents, which i why nowadays i have to keep re evaluating my parents behavior in comparison to the people ive let in to my life and figure out what is what. It sucks.
/r/seduction28/05/25 06:10 PM
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you know nothing about my relationship with my mom, but i can tell you right now her love is completely conditional, she is not above me in any way and i dont worship her, i resent her. Shes an emotional black hole that swallows up any care or affection thats directed towards her but will not reciprocate. ive spent 24 years trying to get her to love me. she cant. furthermore, im completely lacking in empathy due to the traumatic homelife she forced me to endure. i can infer intellectually that s…
/r/seduction28/05/25 03:56 PM
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you only need to look for IOI / IOD signs (the social cues) Okay, getting better at this. older women near throw themselves at me, so ive picked up some indicators from their underhand lobs. KINO (you need to start touching her progressively from her arm, shoulder, hand, neck, waist... until you lift her up or kiss her). Oddly enough im a natural w Kino? Met a church girly a month ago, only chatted 3 times. 1st meeating was a handshake, second meeting my arm was around her shoulders, hand on kne…
/r/seduction28/05/25 10:57 AM
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Where do i find this "self love" post? your profile or here on seddit? Ill be the first to admit i probabaly dont know how to communicate properly; im ND and was given orders instead of spoken to most of my life, so my speech pattern most likely reflects this directness.
/r/seduction28/05/25 10:09 AM
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i get the concept of seduction: build tension, kino, yadda yadda. the problem im having is the HOW. The words used while doing the seducing. conveying "Emotion" through the way i talk, taking the lead in a conversation. i dont know what any of that means and no one can explain it in a way that makes sense to me. I can have convos w women that last hours, but i cant escalate because i have literally 0 frame of reference for what that looks like.
/r/seduction28/05/25 10:04 AM
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Me and my brother have been "joking" about this for years.
/r/seduction28/05/25 09:55 AM
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, it can come across as indifference. In fact, excessive outcome independence is not something to brag about, it can actually mask the fear of escalation Indifference is a bad thing? i was under the impression being indifferent was the goal; stoic alpha male only giving attention the those worthy and such? isnt being TOO friendly and TOO available bad? But if you already think it's weird, then it probably is and better to say something else. Talking to strangers w/out a goal in mind is weird imo…
/r/seduction23/04/25 04:07 PM
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the problem is that we are so divided in current civilisational culture TELL ME ABOUT IT. i try to meet people like me (Neurodivergent) and soooo many are whiny anxious children who cant handle real life meanwhile half of what makes me ME is considered a "Trigger" that i cant talk about without someone having a panic attack and threatening suicide. "Normies" (hate that term) are even worse due to conformity and groupthink.
/r/seduction28/03/25 06:28 PM
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do you enjoy socializing? up until the teasing starts. i hate opening up over and over just to have people make jokes at my expense. reeeeeally de-incentivizes any reason to to continue associating w people.
/r/seduction28/03/25 06:24 PM
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had to look it up... you may be on the money here. used to think i was fearful/anxious avoidant, but after some therapy and re integration into society, my behavior very much mirrors dismissive attachment. once again time to unfuck myself!
/r/seduction28/03/25 06:16 PM
1

though I'm sure you have some rough idea of the value of companionship, friendship, teamwork, etc. not really, no. I do most things by myself. Been that way more or less my whole life? wdym by necessary social skills?
/r/seduction25/03/25 06:37 PM
5

his dAd is the owner Of BEIJING CORN!
/r/seduction06/03/25 01:52 PM
2

i recognize some are wrong, but i dont believe im too far from the mark here. Asthmatics are inferior to non asthmatics: fact of life. Ask any asthmatic if they would trade for proper lungs. the ones who say no are liars. White trash is socially less desirable than the baseline civillian (hence the whole "trash" part) which is reinforced by a lot of media. Im not trying to be difficult or stay in a pool of misery, im simply pulling from personal experiences as well as the general culture around …
/r/seduction04/03/25 10:01 AM
1

this is very helpful. we do know each other slightly (names exchanged, jokes made, etc.) she does indeed ask about my day/plans with plenty of eye contact. this is why im more certain that shes interested The stores closed but ill be sure to shoot my shot next time.
/r/seduction08/02/25 12:53 AM
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When you talk to people do you always blurt out the most direct thing that is on your mind the moment you start taking to them? Not who you responded to, but this is what i do, yes. Wdym communicating in dynamic ways?
/r/seduction16/01/25 01:45 PM
1

So most guys decide to pursue purely based on appearences? My logic is you can be the prettiest girl in the room, but if you have the personality of a houseplant youre not much more than 3 holes and a set of tits. Crude, i know however i reaaaally cant tolerate undesirable behaviour just to get my dick wet.
/r/seduction26/11/24 02:07 PM
1

28 male
/r/seduction26/11/24 01:53 PM
1

i wanna piggyback as i have similar problems sharing about myself. I grew up Insanely abused/neglected and dont like sharing much about myself as i feel its mostly downer topics. Any advice on how to proceed? ive gathered i need to keep as many of my issues to myself as possible, but not sharing details about my life strikes me as antisocial.
/r/seduction12/11/24 08:49 PM
1

Just talk about your sexuality in a nonchalant way. Could you explain this a bit? i was under the impression your sexuality meant what gender you like, however the way you refer to it leads me to believe its closer to what im interested in sexually?
/r/seduction12/11/24 06:37 PM
2

First off, eye contact. Is it strong I can stare down a statue. A positive side effect of my abusive childhood; Dad FORCED me to look him in the eyes while he degraded/screamed at me, so nowadays i find myself IMMEDIATELY making eye contact, bordering on challenging them to a staring contest. Second, speech. Are you calm? Are you in your low, manly tone? Working on it. Tonality practice has definitely paid off as ive taken on a lower octave, now im working on making it constant. I still pitch up…
/r/seduction12/11/24 05:01 PM
5

nah my G. My risk assessment is on point, she had problems written ALL over her.
/r/seduction09/11/24 03:23 AM
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Had a bar hag throwing herself at me when i started going out for dinner. She made it UNCOMFORTABLY obvious she wanted to fuck me, and all i really did was exist? I carry myself very manly, so i presume i was her type.
/r/seduction08/11/24 08:41 AM
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6 ft 5, so he has that going for him yes.
/r/seduction21/10/24 05:29 PM
1

Have you ever seen what Mystery looked like? i was shocked as hell, he looked like the singer for a NIN cover band moonlighting at a comic shop
/r/seduction21/10/24 05:11 PM
1

Idk why youve been downvoted so badly, your example (That you kindly wrote out for me tyvm) was the lightbulb moment i needed to get the lesson to stick. Women EXPECT physical contact as an IOI from men, otherwise the friendzone happens, and THAT was my sticking point: that physical contact IS the escalation(!) otherwise im just having a pleasant chat... and whats sexy and exciting about that? This makes the previous advice ive received make more sense: try to talk for 5-10 minutes to build comf…
/r/seduction16/10/24 02:45 PM
1

shit that digs into varying emotions ive seen similar statements elsewhere, and im always confused: do i know which emotion im trying to evoke? like i say X in hopes it makes her happy/sad/interested/horny? or do i just throw whatever at the wall and take in the emotional response AFTER the words are out there?
/r/seduction15/10/24 05:11 PM
0

Would this timeline be the compliance ladder someone else mentioned here?
/r/seduction15/10/24 05:07 PM
3

This... is pretty solid advice tbh. Time to save my nickels!
/r/seduction15/10/24 03:56 PM
23

This is very helpful. I came up in low contact environment, so i believed everyone would freak out if i touched them. turns out its expected... who knew?
/r/seduction15/10/24 01:45 PM
5

So if im understanding correctly, getting physical w someone (playing around, touching hands, etc.) is generally understood as an unspoken form of interest? Women are more likely to assume im flirting than just being friendly as long as i keep trying to escalate? "Hes getting handsy, so he must be in to me!" would this be a reasonable way to describe how women see getting physical?
/r/seduction15/10/24 01:00 PM
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could i get you to expand on this a bit? i know what Kino is, however wouldnt i still need to open man to woman before attempting to break the contact barrier? Or would involving Kino during a normal conversation be a form of indirect flirting? Forgive my ignorance, my only long term exposure to female behaviour was my Mom, and shes a low value Pick Me so my entire perspective is kinda fucked RN.
/r/seduction15/10/24 10:47 AM
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Theyre indian in a foreign land that Reaaally doesnt like them at the moment, so most of them are latching on to regionally similar peoples while theyre here. If youre Indian w Status AND you speak any Indian dialect youll clean up here, everyone is struggling economically RN and there really no space for anyone.
/r/seduction30/09/24 09:47 AM
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If youre indian, and do well w indian women? Toronto. We just imported a shit ton of your people so youll have plenty to pick from
/r/seduction30/09/24 09:38 AM
1

er, unh, ARRRGH! Tic Tac Toe crossing intensifies
/r/seduction25/09/24 05:04 PM
3

is it really that simple? wouldnt they all get offended for being presumed easy, whether they actually wanted to or not? slut shaming and all that?
/r/seduction19/09/24 11:03 PM
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If its a personal choice, then no. nothing wrong w a man staying in his lane and focusing on grind. I will say it may be a worthwhile skill to start practicibg sooner than later.
/r/seduction19/09/24 08:18 PM
2

experienced this in college. i was a whiny bitch and it ruined my rep, i just didnt know it because im socially retarded.
/r/seduction27/08/24 03:04 AM
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i have no idea how he pulled that Asian girl (she looked like a model and I’m pretty sure she was taller than him) came in with this average white dude theres your answer; shes asian, hes white. A LOT of ethnic women go for white boys due to internalized racism. There used to be a tumblr i followed called "black women confessions" every other post was about how someone wanted a white boyfriend. youll also see posts like that here on reddit.
/r/seduction12/08/24 09:43 AM
2

Gonna piggyback here. I took 6(?) months of boxing, learned i could get my shit rocked by a dedicated 14 yo, discovered major foot related health issues from the workouts/foot work drills AND lost hella weight. ALL while learning to defend myself. Am i good? hell no. But im confident now i could at least throw solid punches and run, and knowing that changes how you see everything.
/r/seduction07/08/24 08:48 PM
2

you ARE aware ADHD is often comorbid w Autism, and generally when a Ritalin baby gets medicated, they find out that they are in fact on the spectrum?
/r/seduction29/07/24 04:09 PM
1

fwiw i live up the street from where a girls body was found chopped up and frozen so...
/r/seduction22/07/24 01:55 AM
5

the beefy kind! medium rare, little bit of spice but mainly grilled and juicy.
/r/seduction11/07/24 03:42 PM
6

I couldve spent the weekend w the barmaid at her place, but i had 0 interest in her and REALLY just wanted to eat my meal tbh. Also, shes already made passes at me, my favorite being "this is my friend! gestures to other lady we both like dick!"
/r/seduction11/07/24 03:41 PM
10

pretty much. nothing attractive AT ALL.
/r/seduction11/07/24 03:32 PM
1

im 28, shitty self esteem but realistically maybe a 6? barmaid was a solid 3, and the cutie was average? dyed hair and e girl aesthetic, so i couldnt get a decent gauge.
/r/seduction11/07/24 02:31 PM
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just turned 28
/r/seduction11/07/24 02:28 PM
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the barmaid is just...no. and the young one took off with her dad(?)/easily replaceable daddy before i had the chance to talk to her
/r/seduction11/07/24 12:37 PM
0

Not all, but a good portion, yes. 1% of all of Asia is related to Genghis Khan, and he sure as hell didnt use Game.
/r/seduction08/07/24 12:55 PM
4

Pretty sure violence and force played a big part in that era chief...
/r/seduction08/07/24 11:54 AM
1

have you considered philanthropy? if you have more money than uses for it, and you feel nothing with women, then maybe youre meant to go bigger. My personal hero regarding money is Andrew Carnegie; steel baron of the 20th century, one time richest man on earth, and cheque signer to MANY buildings still in use today.
/r/seduction12/06/24 02:41 AM
1

its my strong suit. i can do heavy eye contact/kino, get her emotionally invested while still having fun, AND most importantly i amuse myself. Theres a subtle difference between lying about yourself to look better and making up obvious nonsense to have fun and keep people guessing.
/r/seduction06/06/24 07:43 PM
1

Apologies, difference in vocabularies. To me "Bullshitting" a woman is making up fantastical scenarios on the fly (im a pirate and ill make you my first mate on the good ship lollipop stealing from the british) what i now know to be a form a flirting. I suppose "Banter" is closer to what i mean?
/r/seduction06/06/24 04:56 PM
1

You have no idea how useful this is to me. the time spent talking is the part i was always anxious about, but i know for a FACT i can charm and bullshit near anyone for 5 minutes once i have the momentum.
/r/seduction06/06/24 06:39 AM
4

dont forget the other thing!
/r/seduction03/06/24 06:16 AM
1

Magic mushrooms, vitamins and therapy. youll learn to get out of your own way and thats when you can start stretching your legs and running free BUT IT TAKES COMMITMENT.
/r/seduction30/05/24 09:35 PM
1

deviation in IQ levels has been proven to cause issues regarding intercommuminication skills due to the gradient of intelligence. The smarter you are, the harder it is to make connections because you literally see the world differently than the average person.
/r/seduction26/05/24 04:29 AM
1

this is all very appreciated, thank you!
/r/seduction27/04/24 11:30 PM
1

it’s with a girl and she’s into you she’ll lock eyes longer than usual and then you know she’s interested. what is usual vs longer than usual in this context? only recently have i internalized the idea that im attractive to women, so i have no frame of ref. for eye contact. I think a little cutie presented herself to me but i was too timid to take the bait. If you lock eyes just give a sly smile and give her a nod up, blow a kiss, pull her in with imaginary rope, a wink or something silly like t…
/r/seduction27/04/24 10:16 PM
1

constant interaction in that its sprayed on you, and then lingers for hours. We tune it out after 15 minutes or so, despite the smell being there. Imagine leaving your house and breathing in the smell of outside, then coming home and smelling what YOUR house smells like. Youll notice at first, then its gone because you adjust.
/r/seduction26/04/24 04:12 AM
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its probably you. Humans go "Nose Blind" to smells we are in constant interaction with. its an evolutionary quirk we never moved past to help notice distinct changes in the local flavor.
/r/seduction23/04/24 06:05 AM
0

no problem. if your looking to simulate a jawline, consider a low box beard (google high vs low box). I have patchy cheeks, so low boxing i follow just above my natural jawline until it flows into my moustache. this will help square your jawline and the volume of the beard growing out will add length to your face.
/r/seduction23/04/24 06:02 AM
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Beards subcommunicate a good long term provider vibe. if you want women to think your sexy? grow stubble up to a five oclock shadow. Ryan Gosling on an average tuesday is a good example. not a beard, but definitely not clean shaven either.
/r/seduction23/04/24 03:15 AM
1

most of my dads family is dead or refuse to talk to me because my dad was a criminal. My moms family are all self absorbed assholes who tear me down to make themselves feel better, and ALSO hated my dad because he was a criminal. Just because we all have family, doesnt mean we have family that loves us.
/r/seduction22/04/24 03:40 PM
2

then ask 5-10 very close people to you buddy, if we had the ability to maintain 5-10 close relationships you think we would have issues meeting women and getting dates? 15% of men today have 0 friends, and that is only getting worse
/r/seduction22/04/24 03:12 PM
3

yes tf??? older guys fuck college girls all the time? you being older is an advantage over 20 somethings like me?
/r/seduction22/04/24 03:06 PM
12

Im not sure where the negativity towards this post is coming from? Every point youve made here makes sense if i want to present myself as a capable leader instead of a clueless child. Since ive become more specific w my invitations i feel more confident and justified in my approaches. Its wild how this all spirals up if you humble yourself and try things.
/r/seduction20/04/24 03:49 PM
3

Big. Pink. Hairy. Alaskan bull worms reign supreme
/r/seduction28/02/24 12:40 PM
-1

thank you for being the only productive one here. i appreciate the practical advice and link. ill practice approaching from field of view.
/r/seduction15/02/24 12:49 PM
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Do you think posting negativity without any worthwhile feedback makes YOU sound like some i want to listen to? We all start somewhere, and im more than willing to look retarded if it means i get better? thats how growth happens.
/r/seduction15/02/24 12:46 PM
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her hair obscured her earbuds, as a lot of womens hair does, so i didnt see them at first, and i wouldve looked like a bitch if i pussed out after opening. Furthermore, i can work the "im in charge" angle a lot better than the "respect whamen" vibe so yes, her thinking im a self centred dick works to my advantage. Dark triad traits are desirable for a reason.
/r/seduction15/02/24 10:58 AM
2

yes. instead of spending his life making something of himself, he just sat in his misery and complained for decades, leaving him broke and starving. the projection from you is ridiculous; "I think everyone here is secretly insecure. Otherwise, we wouldn't need game to make up for our lack of self-esteem." life ain't fair and the world is mean, then you die. it's the suffering and payoffs between all that, that make it worth it. Instead of whining to an internet peanut gallery, get therapy. you s…
/r/seduction01/09/23 01:37 AM
1

Hey babee, wan sum fuk?
/r/seduction03/09/22 03:52 PM
2

You're the first person ive seen here whos mentioned the family dynamic issue with developing one's self. As someone who suffers socially because of my family, I really respect you bringing it up!
/r/seduction31/08/22 12:54 AM
2

loose and lose are 2 different words, with 2 different meanings, much like the difference between contact sports and shit tests, at least to me, but that's the beauty of Reddit, we're both just faceless nobodies arguing over semantics. Have a nice day, enjoy all the downvotes.
/r/seduction15/07/22 08:03 PM
4

GOOD FUCKING BOT HOLY SHIT
/r/seduction15/07/22 07:18 PM
2

one is physical violence, the other is a subtle mind game, neither is alike? if you gotta slam into someone to see how they respond, that seems more like threat assessment than simply shit testing. what happens when the recipient decides to punch you in the head for being too rough?
/r/seduction15/07/22 07:17 PM
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